Post # 1
I am so upset that my sister thinks the dress I picked out is ugly. We already bought and paid for the dresses, and we can’t take them back. I don’t think they are horrible, but they aren’t what I was expecting. I originally wanted to get a specific dress from Davids Bridal, but being in Canada, they didn’t have the petal pink colour (which now they do, and I wish I could get that dress!!) I want my sister to feel good about the way she looks, I don’t want her to be so upset. Would I be silly to try and sell their dresses on Kijiji and get the ones from Davids Bridal? Or should I just leave it alone and let me sister be pissed? She’s my matron of honour and she hasn’t said any of this to me, but she’s mentioned it to my mom. I wish I had done things differently. I wish I had just told them to get their own dresses in petal pink…
Post # 3
I think that she should just suck it up and wear it. I also think that she should have never said to you that she doesn’t like the dress. If I were a bridesmaid and I didn’t like the dress I would NEVER complain to the bride and I would wear it with a smile on my face and donate it later.
Just keep the dress. When its her wedding, she can pick out what she wants you to wear.
ETA: I just read that she didn’t say it to you, she said it to your mom. Your mom probably shouldn’t have told you that.
Post # 4
She has to wear it for 1 day, she can deal
Post # 5
I also agree that she can deal with one day. She may just be passively complaining, so you don’t really have to worry. Now if she had said it to you, or in the future makes open remarks to you, then you may need to speak up. Until then, I think you don’t have to address this situation or make changes anywhere. Often people may express dislike to someone else, but won’t say it to the actual person. It’s just how some people are.
However, if you are truly biting your nails over this, and it will be a significant bit of stress in your life, maybe you can consider changing the maid and matron of honours dress (since they are the title brides maids) to the one you are considering. I often see the maid and/or matron of honour have different dresses from the rest of the bridal party.
This is just one option though. I would rather you hold your ground in YOUR decision, and show her that it is your day, and that you make the final decision for it, whether or not she ever personally tells you about her dislike for the dress.
Post # 6
It is one day and she will survive. Tell her to suck it up.
Post # 7
I agree with all the others. She needs to suck it up. It’s not about her.
Post # 8
pics b/c i am curious, but yes she’ll suck it up.
Post # 9
Pics please! I’m sure it’s fine, but she’s probably just complaining for the sake of complaining. She’ll live. If not, demote her.
Post # 10
this is the dress I had to make a quick decision on. I think I’m just more mad at myself for how I handle the whole situation. I was at the store, and at that time the wedding was booked for June 1st and we were to have the dress in on time we needed to order right away. The saleswoman was just so pushy, and I let her push me. Ugh. It is a nice dress, but I’ve seen nicer. Julie can just suck it up, and I know that everyone is going to look great in the dress, even if it’s not the greatest.
Post # 11
It’s very pretty!
My bridesmaids dresses were from Bill Levkoff too and I think they were the decision that caused me the most stress during my wedding planning. On the day of they looked great though!
As everyone else has already said, your sister needs to suck it up. Don’t let this issue worry you any further.