Post # 1
So my sister in law (my husband’s older sister) doesnt seem to like me a lot… I don’t even know what I did! Some days she can be nice to me and some days she just attacking me with her words! Let me tell you a few stories.
When we were planning the wedding i asked her daughter to help me out at the reception and she refused to let her give me a hand because her daughter “not comfortable doing it” and then came to the wedding empty handed! Her whole family was 4 people altogether and her son was in the bridal party (we bought him suit and tie) I don’t expect a lot from her but c’mon! come to a wedding empty handed? 4 people?? (Mind you, she always said that her husband made enough money for her to spend whatever she wants and whenever she wants!)
She also “attacking” me when my husband not around! Just when he went out to answer his phone she starts saying funny things to me, judging me for not talking to my dad (she doesn’t know the reason behind that So don’t judge right?) When she had enough of my family problem she changed the subject to my new job and keep saying sh!t like I wasn’t really working bla bla bla (judging me again?)
The thing she did recently that got me really upset was texting my husband to ask us to give her son and daughter money for Xmas present! Isn’t it rude??? I think it’s so rude!! Only a few weeks before Xmas! Doesn’t she think that I might bought the presents already??
She did A LOT of things that got me down and upset. I always tried to bite my tongue because she is my husband’s sister.
Do you have a sister in law who upsets you? If you do, please share it here. I would like to know I’m not alone 🙁
Post # 3
@His_missus: You are not alone! I can totally relate. My FSIL does not seem to like me at all. Which is strange considering we were actually kinda close before my fiance and I got engaged. Throughout the wedding planning process she has just been a pain in my butt.
-She skipped my bridal shower,
-complaned about the bridesmaids dresses,
-we registered at Macy’s and she repeately makes comments about how she cannot afford Macy’s and how we should have registered somewhere more realistic like Target (like seriously we did not register for you),
-she has a super mega-meltdown because she is not getting a plus one (its not just her everyone is due to the size of the venue and the guest list and its 12 weeks to the wedding and she is single. Who was she going to bring anyway?) and called me super controlling,
-she freaked out when she found out one of her friends was not going to be invited (why she thought we would invite a friend of hers that we don’t know we don’t understand but whatever) and she blamed me for it.
She is just overall mean to me anymore. She acts like I am a giant snob. Personally, I think it just has to do with her own insecurities and jealousy. I don’t really have much to do with her outside of family events and when we are there I’m super sweet to her and I have never said anything hurtful or mean to her (no matter how much I’d like to tell her to stop being a spoiled brat and grow up. We are the same age, 24, and I know better than to behave like that).
Asking you to give them money is beyond rude. I cannot even understand how someone would think that is okay? I mean basically asking for cash is just tacky. I’d be so upset.
What does your husband think of her behavior? What does your MIL and FIL think?
I think that you are doing the right think. No matter how much it sucks. You will never regret being the bigger person. Ever. I am sure your husband appreciates you not putting him in a tough spot and I guarantee there are people who notice that she is just nasty to you and you continue to be pleasent and sweet. She is the one with the problem not you. My guess is she is jealous of you and to feel better about herself she needs to push you down. Don’t let it get to you. I mean you don’t like this lady so what does her opinon of you matter anyway?
Post # 4
@March1stBride: I’m so sorry abt your SIL. She sounds like a real pain!!
My SIL like to put me down. I think she’s enjoying it. She got upset once because I called my husband “a reliable man” and not her husband. Ummm he is not my husband why would I give him compliment?? (And we all know he is so unreliable. I think deep down she knows but just doesn’t wanna face it so she got upset) I can go on and on abt her. Too many stories!
I told my husband what I think abt her, he agreed and he said we don’t have to come to her house unless we have to. Also told my MIL but all she said was “Don’t worry abt her” Really? What can she say? End of the day, I’m only the daughter in law and she is my MIL’s daughter!