- 5 years ago
- Wedding: January 2005
Couldn’t find where to post this… hope it is okay to post here.
I’m need a little advice regarding my brother’s wife:
My brother and I have always been close (but now we live on opposite sides of the country). I am very sad, because we used to email all the time (when he worked outside of the house, but now he works from home). Now, when I email him at home, his wife always responds, even if the email is just intended for him. At first it wasn’t a big deal, but now I know my brother is not receiving the emails. I know this because whenever I talk to him on the phone, he has no knowledge of the email – does not know what I’m talking about when I refer to it. So in a nutshell, if I ask a question on the email, she answers it for him, and signs it with his and her name, as if they are both present.
I don’t have any issue with her, she’s actually a really nice person (I think), and when I lived closer, we used to do lots of things together. But now I get the feeling that she doesn’t want me to have any personal exchange with my brother.
I make a point to tell him I’ve sent him an email when we talk on the phone, and he always pauses and sounds surprised. But still I get replies from her only, so I don’t think he’s mentioned it to her. My mother says she gets replies from him (signed his name only), so it’s only me receiving these emails signed with ‘both names’. I also know their writing styles, and it is definitely her that is replying and signing his name.
My emails are not about anything serious or earth-shattering, just your run of the mill “how are you doing?” emails. So it’s not like she would have a reason to keep them from him.
This has been going on for over a year. i don’t want to come out and say anything directly because I don’t want to rock the boat (he loves her a LOT, and I know it would just ruin our relationship).
Does anyone have any ideas what I should do here? I don’t want my brother to think I don’t want to talk to him anymore (and neither of us are really phone people).