- 6 years ago
Hi Bees. I’m having some issues with my sister in law and I get quite frustrated some days as our husbands are twin brothers and are very close. My brother in law did not know this girl for very long when they got married and had a lot of issues before, on and after their wedding day. There were a lot of fights between them infront of everyone and some very harsh language used towards the guests and bridal party. The wedding went ahead eventually and the chaos has been nonstop since. It was a destination wedding in a holiday period and was quite an expensive trip for us to make. My husband made the decision that we would not give a gift. She and her husband chipped us for this and said they were expecting a $200 gift. They announced their pregnancy not long after and we announced our engagement. I had the most amazing time planning our wedding and had asked this girl to be part of our ceremony and also to get ready with us (included me paying for her hair and make up). The night before our wedding we had a fabulous BBQ with all the family and friends. After the groom and I had gone our separate ways for the night, her and her husband had a fight which ended up with her leaving town the next morning without telling anyone and not attending our wedding. She didn’t apologise to us nor has she ever mentioned or commented on our wedding. Not 2 weeks after this, I got an invitation to her baby shower which I graciously accepted and attended with a $280 pedicure voucher and baby clothes. My husband and I stayed with them that weekend and her and her husband left us to eat our dinner in their lounge room while they went to eat theirs in bed. That gets me to now. The baby is due any day. I know it is a very exciting time for them and their families but I feel as though my husband’s family are sweeping all this bad behaviour under the mat because she is giving them a grandchild. My father in law told me today that it was ok to be chipped for not giving a wedding gift. I can’t help but feel bitter towards this girl sometimes. Am I wrong to?