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Oh man, one random dress, that's a tough one. If it were me I'd want all of my BMs in the same dress or all of them in different dresses (or maybe some BMs in one style, and the others in a different style but same color.) I think one girl in a different dress is going to stick out. Is there any way that your fiance and 2 of the other girls could wear a different style?
Oh I sort of forgot about them all standing up there with me. I was only thinking about pics. Shooot. Another option is if she and my sister can agree on one. I'd like that! But there's a lot of maybes/ifs in that!
I think that dress is darling and seems flattering. I also think it's rude to go against the dress the bride picks out- seriously, i have worn hideous dresses/colors and kept my mouth shut.
I think you did a pretty good job of trying to pick a dress that everyone was happy with and honestly I think she needs to suck it up lol. It would look really weird to have just one girl in a different dress, especially if shes not you MOH. I'm letting my girls pick their dresses but I think it's either all of them pick their own dress or they all wear the same one. I've worn dresses I didn't like before for weddings. It's a few hours and it will not be a huge deal I'm sure :)
honestly, i'd just tell her to suck it up (in much nicer words lol). let her know that everyone else really likes it and you've only planned for everyone to wear the dress.
she reminds me of my FSIL. my FSIL hates hates hates pink and my bm dresses are pink. luckily she sucked it up and was quiet and didn't complain. every now and again she'll mention that she must "reaaaaally love me" because she's wearing pink for me and i just smile and nod. lol
Well luckily you chose alfred sung. They have tons of long dresses in that color that will be very similar to help match the other bms.
I would make sure the other BMs try it on and agree that they like it before you make your next decision. Until you find out how many of the BMs don't like it, you won't really know what step to make.
If the rest of the girls DO like it, I would either tell FSIL to suck it up (again, in nicer terms) or have two of the other BMs pick out a different dress that better suits FSIL.
Have you seen the dress on her? Maybe it's the color she doesn't like (and if so, too bad...no other dress will work). I'd find out specifically what she doesn't like about it and then see what your other BMs think about it.
My first choice would be to tell her that that is the dress and you're not willing to change it since the overwhelming majority is in favor.
After that... I'd have them all in different dresses. I sort of feel like having BMs wear the same dress is an all or nothing type thing.
GOOD LUCK!
Has she tried it on? If so, did she mention specifically what she did not like about it?
If everyone else has tried it on and likes it then I say stick with it. It is a really nice dress. My FI's sister pulled the same thing. I just told her that it was everyone else's (including me!) top choice and that's what we are going with.
Hmmm...if it were me I would want all my bm's in the same dress. I kind of would tell her to suck it up, she's outnumbered and it's your day not hers. Did you see her in the dress? Does it really look that bad?
I love that dress, and I'm sorry, but it is not her wedding. She can get it altered to fit her body. What are the issues that she's having with it? Maybe you can give shawls as your BM gift. But, I would have her wear the same dress...she doesn't get special privileges. If it's the bust, then maybe she can have a panel of the same fabric be inserted. But no, she would have to wear it, end of story.
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Ok, so I thought I had picked a bridesmaid dress for my 6 girls that met the following criteria:
1) the right shade of green (oooh pine green by Alfred Sung, I love you)
2) sleeves, because the girls had to be somewhat modest, at LEAST under the chuppah/during the ceremony, and 2 of them requested NOT strapless so they'd be a bit more covered (big chested!)
3) All the girls saw it online and loved it.
So this is what we got:
All the girls have seen this picture, but only myself (for good measure) and my sister (who is my opposite body type) have tried it on. They all liked it and since it looked good on me and my sis (again, opposites and covered the spectrum of body types in the BP), I figured we were set. Oh, no.
Fiance's sister just told me how TERRIBLE the dress looks on her. Ok, fine. So I'm not going to sit here and say she should wear something she doesn't look good in (allegedly :), as much as I want to. I was kinda annoyed since she asked if we had to stick with that dress, but 5 girls liking it versus 1 not, and factoring in how difficult it is to find a dress with sleeves, I said yes, that was the dress.
**side note: i thought about shawls, but so few come with the dress and I didn't want the girls to have to pay even more money. same thing goes for building a dress up. and being covered up at least for part of the time is non-negotiable--rabbi step-brother is the one marrying us!*
Anyways, so now I could have her
a) wear a different dress in the same material/color. but since she'd be the only one, I think that'd be weird, and also might imply that she's top in the bridal party.
b) let her wear whatever she wants.
I'm leaning towards B since it would be most accomodating, but also selfishly, someone in a random dress would look better in pics than someone in a different kind of green dress. The other thing to consider is that if one (or a few) of the remaining 5 try on the dress and don't like, I may have to revisit the subject entirely. BUT I don't really think that's going to happen. (if anyone wasn't going to like it, it was my sister!) I really wanna say something to his sis now, and just get on with it though...I also want her to know that no, I'm not switching the dress because she doesn't like it.
So, thoughts?!