(Closed) Sister-in-laws as BMs?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Would you have in-laws as bridesmaids?
    Yes, they are going to be family! : (37 votes)
    63 %
    It should not be a big deal either way : (22 votes)
    37 %
  • Post # 3
    3281 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I am having my Fiance 2 cousins in my bridal party because they are more like sisters to him. They are important to him and our wedding is about joining our families too!

    Post # 5
    384 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I wish I could have FI’s sister as a bridesmaid, but she said no.  Actually she said, “Please don’t feel like you have to ask me to wear a big frilly dress.”  She’s awesome and is playing a big role in our ceremony, but made it clear that she doesn’t want to stand up in front of tons of people wearing a dress.

    I’d say if you’ve got room and are close to the sister I’d ask, otherwise don’t worry about it.

    Post # 6
    922 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I had my fiance’s sister and his brother’s wife as bridemaids in my wedding…we get along and they are going to be family..

    Post # 7
    2476 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I had no doubts about having my SIL be a bridesmaid… but then again, I adore my SIL.  🙂

    Post # 8
    1390 posts
    Bumble bee

    It’s totally up to you. SO doesn’t have sisters but his brothers’ wives were all in one another’s weddings. We don’t live by them though, and I’m not close with any of them. They definitely won’t be in our wedding. My sister was her SIL Maid/Matron of Honor though, and they’re still very close. It should be about who you feel closest to on your day, not rules.

    Post # 9
    597 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    If you feel comfortable and it feels right, then you should have your SIL. 

    For me it does, so of course we asked my Future Sister-In-Law. However, I won”t be having my sisters….they didn’t really want to be BMs. I know it goes against tradition, but its whatever works for you. For me, having supportive people is a big deal…

    Post # 10
    445 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’m going to ask my FSIL! She’s awesome. We actually get along really, really well and she was sooo excited when my Fiance proposed! She’s just thrilled to be getting a sister (regardless of the in law)! So, I’ll definitely have her as a bridesmaid!

    Post # 11
    1701 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I asked his sister.  I would have asked my brother’s wife, but we already had a lot of people just with sisters and close friends.  My brother’s wife and his brother’s wife (whom I don’t really know) are both doing readings.  Everyone is included.  Except our sisters’ husbands who we can’t stand:)

    Post # 13
    1046 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I think it really depends on your family and how everyone will feel. I asked my two best friends and my own sister to be my BMs. My fiance has a sister but although I love her, we’re not close, and I’d have to cut one of my best friends out in order to have her as a Bridesmaid or Best Man (we really didn’t want, nor could afford, a big bridal party). She will probably get married in the next couple of years, and this way she won’t feel obligated to ask me to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man either. She’s not the kind of person to get offended by things like this, which really are about practicalities, so it’s okay. I know she won’t resent me for it or anything.

    We’re including my Future Sister-In-Law in other ways, such as having her do a reading and helping do some coordination once she is in town.

    Post # 14
    321 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2011 - Anthony’s Fine Dining

    I think it depends on the situation and the relationship.  Personally, my Future Sister-In-Law is one of my bmaids.  She and Mr. Lion are not super close but the way I see it, who’s to say they won’t be close in 5, 10, 40 years?  If it was just about the one day, she might not be included…but thinking into the future, I feel like I’d be more likely to regret not including her than including her.  If he had several siblings, it might be a different story, but I was happy to make room!

    Post # 15
    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    If you have a good enough relationship with them, I would have them! It will also probably be a good way for you to get closer and bond with them.

    Post # 16
    1306 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Im having FI’s sister in mine.  I’ve watched her grow up and she’s like a lil sis to me; plus she is so incredibility excited that we get to be “real sisters”.

    Go with your heart on this one.

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