(Closed) Sister is blabbing on Facebook…

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I would just approach it like that – just say something to the effect of “Hey, I am glad you are so excited about my wedding! It means a lot to me, but since we are in the early planning stages, so much could change. I would hate for someone to get excited if we end up not being able to invite them.”

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would ask her politely not to say anything about your wedding on facebook, however you can’t control what she posts.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Instead of being upset, be glad your sister is excited to be a part of your planning process!  I personally wouldn’t risk snubbing her and possibly losing her help over something as trivial as a non-specific status update. 

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@NJmeetsBX: I’m of the same camp as your sister. If you came to me I would probably say something like, “I didn’t really say anything or give any details. What’s the big deal?”

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I personally don’t see the big deal since she seemed to be vague about what she did share and her point was how excited she was to be included in the planning. But, if it’s a privacy issue for now then I would just gently explain it to her like that.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

It sounds like she is very excited about your wedding.  Could you say something along the lines of – I know you are very excited about our wedding as am I, but would you mind keeping the details personal until we decide what we are going to do? 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’ve found the best and sometimes ONLY way to stop people from blabbing your personal private information all around town is to make sure they don’t know it in the first place. Or maybe next time you have a wedding convo with her, casually mention in a 1/2 joking way that the conversation you’re having is private for now, but you’ll let her know when you start telling people.

I’m going through this right now with purchasing a home. DH and I are pretty private about our financial situation and definitely didn’t want anyone knowing the price of our home, even our families. My sister who is older but acts like she’s a bratty teenager sometimes, actually searched online until she found the listing then blasted it out to everyone behind my back. So now all her friends and our family know at least what our home was listed for and everyone’s got an opinion.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I understand what you are saying.  I don’t think I would say anything yet though until she says something with actual details.

A friend of my husband’s wrote on his FB page about how she was buying a ticket for the wedding.  I asked him to delete the message because he has family that he wasn’t inviting (friends on FB) and she wasn’t actually invited anyways.  I don’t know if she got the message or what but she never posted anything like that again and any further mention of the wedding was through text. 

But I only requested that because it was actual details.  Dates, place, etc…  If it was earlier in the planning and no one knew who was invited yet I wouldn’t have cared.

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

ooo this is tough – i just ran into the same problem with my sister (but my sister is mentally handicapped) she just posted all my wedding photos from my personal camera and my honeymoon photos that i had sent her the other day – i was so livid – she is the kind of person that is friends with everyone! seriously if she met you at my wedding she has your facebook and phone number probably – so now i have nothing of my own to post until pro pics come back – but my situation is different haha i have to handle her in a completely – in other words – i feel for you

i like Lindsay12.31.2010 response – i think that is a nice way to put it

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Your OP stated she mentioned 2012 but did she actually give a day?  2012 isn’t really a date.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

i agree with talishazwi.

Her post didnt give a specific date or specific places that you were looking at, did it? if your status says that you are engaged, people are going to already know that you are going to eventually have a wedding. your wedding is an event in her life too, and she is excited about it. thats awesome.

when i got married, my sister didnt even want to talk about my wedding because it was uncomfortable for her. i wished that she couldve been this involved and not be angry, but because of that, many things about my wedding were terrible…

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