- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
I LOVE my sister, her husband and her adorable 4 year old stepson. She lives across country from him and us, and she only visits twice a year, but even when she is out of town I have playdates with her stepson and my kids at lest every other week.
My issue is, she RSVPed for them all to come to the wedding when I only invited her and her husband. I dont want to be a monster to tell her no to her stepson, but there is a very good reason; He is autistic, and can not handle new people or places. Every 6 months her husband gets leave (Army) they come home to see all of us, and they have to basically re-introduce themselves in stages to him in order for him not to freak out. They are coming 4 days before the wedding, and even if he re-connects with them faster than normal, he wont like all the other people and music. There will be kids and toys, but he doesnt play with most toys or interact with many kids.
My first concern is that I just dont think its a good enviroment for him. He wont be comfortable, and he wont be having any fun. I am 90% sure he will just be screaming/crazy anxious the whole time. I have seen him do it before, and its just not healthy!!
My sister gets very heated when I try to give her advice on him. It started when he wasnt diagnosed and since I have nannied for a special needs child I mentioned she might want to observe him, and it offended her. I never said autism, I just said he may have some behavioral and developmental issues that could use attention. Now its like because shes older, and a nurse (worked womans health) she knows better on what he can handle. I bow down most the time because I am not his mother, but a WEDDING!! Really??
How do I tell her no, or am I over reacting?