Sister Issues!!!

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 2
1719 posts
Bumble bee

I don’t think you’re overreacting. Her behavior and some of her requests go too far. 

I think ignoring most of her behavior is best, because her wedding isn’t too far away; it’ll be over soon. For the money and time issues, you might have to basically say, “Sis, this is as much as I can afford, and this is as much as I can do. I will do what I can to help you, but I won’t put my whole life on the back burner simply because you’re getting married”.

If she doesn’t get that, you could ignore her nonsense and do the things she wants done how she wants them done, but within reason, or you could step down. Heck, you could even do both; try to ignore her as best you can, and if that doesn’t work, step down. 

Post # 3
1987 posts
Buzzing bee

 That she is asking you to stop paying bills and pay for stuff for her wedding is ridiculous. Tell her no. Be firm. But that you have this notion that she is ‘thunder-stealing’ and doing this just to get married before you is equally ridiculous. Of course her wedding is all about her–just like yours is all about you. She’s four weeks out. That’s all she’s going to be thinking about. Don’t spend money you don’t have on her. But also don’t try and make this a ‘me, me, look at meeeee!’ competition between the two of you. Why can’t you just be happy for one another and support one another rather than thinking she’s being selfish or vice-versa? That’s what sisters do. To not want to be in her wedding would be a foolish thing to do. This is your sister. Stand firm on not spending any more money, but also be there to support your sister just like you’d want her to do the same.


Post # 4
2620 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

your sister is crazy if she thinks she can boss you around and stop paying for things you need/bills so you can plan and pay for her pre wedding parties. i would just do what i can afford and tell her this is how it will be . if you dont like it i wont waste money on it and you wont get the parties you want… 

Post # 6
1719 posts
Bumble bee

amelliafay:  I don’t blame you for feeling the way you do. 

Luckily, her wedding will be here and then gone pretty quickly. Hopefully things will get back to normal after that. 

Post # 7
93 posts
Worker bee

Definitely stand up for yourself and let her know that you wont be putting your financial security in jeopardy over her wedding. While yes you love her, and would love to be a part of it, you are not in a financial position to pay for all these things. If your participation is that important to her maybe she will chip in, but if not, then respectfully decline to be in her wedding party and let her know you are more than happy to come as a guest and support her through this process but definitely dont allow her to take advantage of you. Your credit score will be happy you did! lol 

Post # 8
7052 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

amelliafay:  Your sister said to stop paying your bills so you can focus on her wedding? Seriously?? That is one of the worst bridezilla moves I have ever heard!!

I think you need to say “no”, over and over. I suggest you drop out of being MOH – because you can’t afford it – unless she gets more realistic expectations. These realistic expectations would be:  (1) cheap dress or she buys the dress; (2) a simple bachelorette with minimal organisation (one night out); (3) you’re not organising a bridal shower. You don’t have the time or the money. If she wants one, someone else can do it.

I’m sure this will cause drama. But remember, you are not cause of the drama. She is, by putting out these unrealistic demands.

I’ll say it again: I’ve heard of some bridezillas in my time on this site, but asking someone to stop paying her bills pretty well takes the cake.

Post # 9
314 posts
Helper bee

You need to put yourself in her shoes- she is six years older and of course she’s embarassed for being married first. But August is only a month away- just suck it up and bulldoze through it 🙂 because after that it is all about *YOU* and your wedding and you can boss her around all you want in revenge.

First thing you need to do is push her to send those invites! sooner that happens, the sooner this nightmare is over, haha.

If you can’t afford something just tell her no. Don’t fight with her, you don’t have to defend yourself,

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