Sister (maid of honour) as wedding MUA?

posted 2 years ago in Beauty
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Hmm…this is a tough situation. If she didn’t ask about being paid I would think it would be a great idea! Money makes it an awkward situation. If I was in your sister’s situation I probably would have offered it to you as a wedding gift when you asked rather than ask about compensation.

That being said, I was recently in a wedding where a friend of the bride and a guest at the wedding (who is talented at makeup application but not a professional) was available to do the bridal party’s makeup if they chose. All of us opted to do our own foundation with our own products and have her do the eye makeup. So, if your girls regularly wear makeup they could always have your sister use their personal foundation or do it themselves and have her do the eyes/lips/contouring. If you were planning on buying foundation for all of them AND paying your sister, just hire a MUA to make it easier for the same amount of $.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Another thought after re-reading your post – if you really want your sister to do it but aren’t keen on paying her, you could recommend using the experience of being MUA for your wedding as a springboard to start up her side-business as a MUA. Take before/after photos (or at least after photos!), start a website, have all your girls recommend her to other friends who are getting married, etc!

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 1 month ago by  missoptimism.
Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

MissTravelbug:  If she hadn’t mentioned compensation, I would say go for it. However, since she did ask about compensation, I think you should go with a professional MUA.

My answer could change, depending on how the rest of the conversation went after she asked if she would be paid. What did you tell her and what did she say in response?

Post # 6
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Newbee

If you can afford it I would hire a pro to save her the hassle.  My sister is a professional photographer but I’m going to hire someone else as I just want her to enjoy herself and not worry about taking pics all day.

That said, if your sister offers to for free you might as well take her up on the offer.  

ETA: You mentioned you asked her and she was wondering about compensation.  If you’re going to pay her you might as well pay someone else.  Even if she’s very talented it’s probably going to be stressful for her and she might feel like hired help at her own sisters wedding.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 1 month ago by  nik2015.
Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

MissTravelbug:  my sister is a licensed cosmetologist so I’m in a similar boat. I knew as soon as we got engaged that I would want her to do my hair and makeup (I’m very picky) but I did not want her to have to worry about anyone else. I want her to be able to relax and enjoy the day without getting stressed because she is working non-stop. It’s no fun to be a ball of stress before any wedding.. trust me.

With that being said, there are a few factors to consider. How many girls in your bridal party and family members need to get their hair and make up done? You might even need to have a second set of hands if you have more than 6-8 total people.

Second, are you giving your bridal party a choice on whether or not they want their makeup done? If it doesn’t matter to you, the girls might decide that they can do their own makeup or help each other (paying for hair and makeup is one thing I hate justifying when I’m in a wedding.. I never like what they do to me and always end up fixing it or hating it. I would much rather save the $ and do my own. Some girls love to be pampered though)

If it looks like the majority of people would like to have a professional then I would look into hiring one to save the stress. Your sister can still do yours (she did a great job in your picture) and you can get her an extra gift to thank her. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

MissTravelbug:  Also as far as compensation goes, I definitely wouldn’t expect your sister to do all of the other girls for free. If you are giving them the choice to have a professional do their hair and makeup and they choose to go with that option then they should pay their own way.

While it is nice for you to pay for their pampering, I personally feel that it is only necessary if you are requiring them.to get their hair and makeup done because you have a certain look in mind. If that’s the case then yes, you should pay your sister. 

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