Post # 1
- Wedding: October 2015 - Marquee - Private Property
My sister is very talented at makeup and has been thinking about trying to pursue it as a career on the side. When we were going through the budget the other day, FI suggested that maybe we could ask her if she’d like to do the makeup for our bridesmaids. He suggested we supply the foundations etc for the different skin tones of my girls (quite fair to quite tanned), and other makeup that she might need (we already both have naked pallets and she could pretty much open a makeup store she has THAT much makeup… so we don’t need much more).
I don’t want her to feel like it’s too much pressure, because that is a LOT of pressure and I know she can be quite hard on herself. But she really is extremely talented, even FI thinks so (and boys don’t really notice makeup much!). I mentioned it to her, and she asked if we’d pay her, which is a tricky question…
Am I best to just hire a professional to save her the stress and let her enjoy herself? She’s my only sister, so we only get to do this once and I want her to have fun too! Also, if we’re paying her, it would almost be redundant not to hire somebody, right? If we paid her, we would not supply additional makeup, that would be up to her.
Post # 2
- Wedding: October 2015 - Marquee - Private Property
She did my makeup and hair for our engagement shoot – here it is. Sorry for the dodgy phone quality.
Post # 3
Hmm…this is a tough situation. If she didn’t ask about being paid I would think it would be a great idea! Money makes it an awkward situation. If I was in your sister’s situation I probably would have offered it to you as a wedding gift when you asked rather than ask about compensation.
That being said, I was recently in a wedding where a friend of the bride and a guest at the wedding (who is talented at makeup application but not a professional) was available to do the bridal party’s makeup if they chose. All of us opted to do our own foundation with our own products and have her do the eye makeup. So, if your girls regularly wear makeup they could always have your sister use their personal foundation or do it themselves and have her do the eyes/lips/contouring. If you were planning on buying foundation for all of them AND paying your sister, just hire a MUA to make it easier for the same amount of $.
Post # 4
Another thought after re-reading your post – if you really want your sister to do it but aren’t keen on paying her, you could recommend using the experience of being MUA for your wedding as a springboard to start up her side-business as a MUA. Take before/after photos (or at least after photos!), start a website, have all your girls recommend her to other friends who are getting married, etc!
Post # 5
MissTravelbug: If she hadn’t mentioned compensation, I would say go for it. However, since she did ask about compensation, I think you should go with a professional MUA.
My answer could change, depending on how the rest of the conversation went after she asked if she would be paid. What did you tell her and what did she say in response?
Post # 6
If you can afford it I would hire a pro to save her the hassle. My sister is a professional photographer but I’m going to hire someone else as I just want her to enjoy herself and not worry about taking pics all day.
That said, if your sister offers to for free you might as well take her up on the offer.
ETA: You mentioned you asked her and she was wondering about compensation. If you’re going to pay her you might as well pay someone else. Even if she’s very talented it’s probably going to be stressful for her and she might feel like hired help at her own sisters wedding.
Post # 7
MissTravelbug: my sister is a licensed cosmetologist so I’m in a similar boat. I knew as soon as we got engaged that I would want her to do my hair and makeup (I’m very picky) but I did not want her to have to worry about anyone else. I want her to be able to relax and enjoy the day without getting stressed because she is working non-stop. It’s no fun to be a ball of stress before any wedding.. trust me.
With that being said, there are a few factors to consider. How many girls in your bridal party and family members need to get their hair and make up done? You might even need to have a second set of hands if you have more than 6-8 total people.
Second, are you giving your bridal party a choice on whether or not they want their makeup done? If it doesn’t matter to you, the girls might decide that they can do their own makeup or help each other (paying for hair and makeup is one thing I hate justifying when I’m in a wedding.. I never like what they do to me and always end up fixing it or hating it. I would much rather save the $ and do my own. Some girls love to be pampered though)
If it looks like the majority of people would like to have a professional then I would look into hiring one to save the stress. Your sister can still do yours (she did a great job in your picture) and you can get her an extra gift to thank her.
Post # 8
MissTravelbug: Also as far as compensation goes, I definitely wouldn’t expect your sister to do all of the other girls for free. If you are giving them the choice to have a professional do their hair and makeup and they choose to go with that option then they should pay their own way.
While it is nice for you to pay for their pampering, I personally feel that it is only necessary if you are requiring them.to get their hair and makeup done because you have a certain look in mind. If that’s the case then yes, you should pay your sister.