Post # 1
First off, my dad is paying for my wedding, but has made VERY few demands. Well, my sister is part of my bridal party, and has asked CONSTANTLY if she could be my Maid/Matron of Honor. First, yes shes my only sister and we are very close in age, but shes not reliable or all that emotionaly/geographically close to me. We never see eye-to-eye. Well, I hadnt yet, but was going to most likely ask my best friend. I guess she calls my dad telling him how much it would mean to her, and how I am taking too long to ask her. Now his only other demand other than beer request (hes laid back but picky about beer) is to ask her to be my Maid/Matron of Honor because its “not that big of a deal”. Then, procceded to tell her he was paying for her Maid/Matron of Honor dress. Now, I dont care that hes paying, but he made it sound like I agreed. I am thinking for sake of the family, and it is only one day, I should give in.
My question is, I have only ever heard of one person who had two MOHs, one was married so was the Maitron or Honor, and the other was not so she was the Maid of Honor. Is this being too greedy, or acceptable? My friend and I have not discused her being the Maid/Matron of Honor but she is completely understanding of my sister situation and knows her well as friends. I dont really care if my sister minds because at lest she gets her precious title.
Good or bad?
Post # 3
I’ve heard of people having 2 MOH’s and think it’s completely ok (as long as you have more than one other bridesmaid).
Also, the Maid/Matron of Honor really doesn’t have to be the most responsible. My sister is Maid/Matron of Honor by default, but the one Bridesmaid or Best Man who lives int he same city as me has taken the reins as far as organizing a bachelorhette weekend and being really “wedding supportive”.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ
I don’t think it’s a problem if YOU want it or don’t care. Maybe to your dad and sis, she will be the “first” Maid/Matron of Honor, but you and your friend Maid/Matron of Honor would know that it was only a title. If you are ok with that I think it’s fine.
Post # 5
I think it’s definitely ok to have 2 MOHs, especially if having your sister be one isn’t that big of a deal for you. From your post, it seems like it’s important to you to have your friend be your Maid/Matron of Honor. Since she understands your relationship with your sister, maybe let your friend know she’s the “real” Maid/Matron of Honor (as long as she won’t go telling everybody and it gets back to your sister).
Now, if you don’t want to give your sister all the glory without any of the work (being Maid/Matron of Honor is a lot of work, especially emotionally), then don’t do it. Would your dad really stop paying for the wedding if you didn’t ask her? If you think it would be an issue, calmly explain your reasons to your sister and your dad, and make your sis a Bridesmaid or Best Man.
Post # 6
I had a Matron of Honor (my sister) and a Maid of Honor (my very close friend). So if that’s what YOU want….go with it!
Also, my big sister wasn’t able to help in a lot of things because she lives in another state.
Post # 7
Oh, and like KatNYC2011 said, your Maid/Matron of Honor doesn’t necessarily have to do all the work. My little sister was my Maid/Matron of Honor. She’s a full time student with little extra time or money. My other BMs took more active roles in planning/paying for my bachelorette party and shower.
Post # 8
Totally ok. And an elegant solution to protecting your sis’s feelings while still having your BFF as your partner in crime. 🙂
Post # 9
I am thinking of doing this too. My little sis is my Maid/Matron of Honor out of family obligation too. I mean, I love her to death but she is only 18 and has zero idea of what to do as a Maid/Matron of Honor. Plus, she lives about 4 hours aways so it is difficult for her to help me with stuff. One of my BMs who is my best friend has really taken over on assisting me with the planning and she planned my bridal shower and everything. I never officially asked her to be a Maid/Matron of Honor, but I think on the day of the wedding, I am going to give her a special gift (aside from the other Bridesmaid or Best Man ones) and write a little note thanking her for being my “other” Maid/Matron of Honor.
Post # 10
It’s perfectly fine to have two MOHs.
Post # 11
I am having 2 Matrons of Honor(my sisters) and one Maid of Honor(my teenage daughter). We all know that my two sisters will split the duties, but it was important for me to give them all an equal title since they are all important in my life.
As for weeonebride your friend will take over the duties of planning events, etc but can now split the cost of throwing all the parties. Believe me I just finished the 5th party for my sister(pre-engagement celebration, engagement, bridal, bachelorette, baby) and parties are not cheap so I am sure your friend will welcome the help!