- 4 years ago
Hello fellow bees,
Have any of you dealt with a sister that kinda went bat-sh*t crazy once you got engaged? My sister was married (now divorced) with beautiful children. She did not want to work it out with her husband and has been in the dating life for about 4-5 years now. She adores my Fiancé (everybody does) and she knew we would eventually get married, but since we got engaged, I feel like I don’t know who she is anymore. We have never been super close, but always sisters and more than civil to one another. We are just not friends.
Everybody chalks it up to her being jealous, etc. but she is the ONLY person in my family/friends that has made this very difficult for me. Talking poorly about me at a social function to friends of my fiancés’, every time I talk about my wedding (which is not a lot since I am not a big attention person) she talks about hers (that is non-existent, she is not even engaged). Because of her behavior, I decided to avoid more drama (so I thought) and have all bridesmaids and no Maid/Matron of Honor.
A couple weeks after I ask people to be in my wedding, she asks who my Maid/Matron of Honor is and I tell her nobody, that they are all bridesmaids. I sense her disappointment with it, however I am not going to bring it up unless she wants to discuss it. So instead of discussing it, she waits for an opportunity to ruin a very nice post on my FB for my dad. I text her why did she do that and she flips out again and says she is stepping out of my wedding (which came out of nowhere).
At this point, I am very hurt and disappointed in her, but the drama has not stopped and I am scared it won’t. Can somebody be that jealous/envious of you that they just want to hurt you? I am having such a hard time understanding. I would think she would be happy for me since this is my first wedding and I am an older bride. Thoughts?