Post # 1
My sister has disapproved of my relationship with my fiance’ because he lived 5 hours away from my family. We met in high school and have dated on and off since I was 14 and he was 13. The weekend we get married we will have known each other 21 years!!
Long story short I married and divorced my daughters dad and my fiance’ and I stayed friends through it all. Then after the divorce he said I always wondered how we would work out so we got back together and 5 years later here we are. My daughter and I moved in with him. Which means we left our entire family 5 hours away.
My sister is very needy and has to have my mom around her constantly even though she is married and has 3 kids. She can not understand how I could live so far away and therefore constantly bad mouths fiance’. He and I started planning the wedding about 6 months before we were engaged and she made comments about how he is never going to marry you and fussed about me planning the fling before the ring.
I responded you don’t know what we are doing out here so you can not judge. Not everyone can go out and drop $2000 on a ring without saving up. (Her husband is an attorney)
So since she is so against fiance’ I chose my cousin who is my best friend and like a sister to me. (words can not express what my cousin means to me she has been there for me through so much).
Has anyone else asked someone other than their sister to be their Matron or Maid of Honor? How much crap did you catch over it for doing so?
Post # 3
Hi. I do not think that anyone has the right to tell you who you MOH should be. It should be the person you are most comfortable with. I will choose my mom when the time comes.
Post # 4
my moh is my best friend because i dislike my sister and everything she has done to me. my mother was little upset but she forgot about it. my sister is not even part of the bridal party
Post # 5
I wont let it bother you. I am not having my sister in my wedding party mainly because she has never really supported my relationship. Even when we drove through a major snow storm to announce our engagement to my family, she never said congrats. Plus she tried to hook me up with some guy the next day.
Post # 6
I asked my sister but then after a couple months she decided it was too inconvenient for her and now she doesnt even want to go to my wedding. I have decided to shut her out of my life for good, im glad she isnt in my wedding because you want people who support you and your FI standing beside you not just because they are blood
Post # 7
I am very close to one of my cousins and she is also like a sister to me (and was definitely my bridesmaid), but it would have killed my sister if she wasn’t my MOH and I could have never done that to her.
Post # 8
My FI isn’t having his brother in our wedding party at all either. They aren’t close and he chose to have his friends who have always been there for him stand up with him. The brother and the parents were a little stung, but they got over it.
It’s your wedding, your choice.
Post # 9
I dont have a sister but if i did then i wouldnt feel like i had to have her as my MOH.
Post # 10
My best friend will be my Matron of Honor. My sister will be a BM. There were no hard feelings for anyone. The choice is yours and yours alone. Try your best not to sacrifice what you want for your wedding just to accomodate someone else’s wishes.
Post # 11
I too, have my best friend as my maid of honor and my sister as a bridesmaid. My sister is 8 years younger than me and a sophomore in college, and didn’t feel like she could do as good a job as my best friend could. The 3 of us get “crap” a lot about my sister not being my bridesmaid (or in the least, why i can’t have 2 MOHs), but we’re doing a pretty decent job of explaining the situation. All in all, this is really your decision and what will make you feel less stress on your wedding day! good luck!
Post # 12
@pengoala:I’m kinda in the same boat. My sister is 8 years younger than I am and I know she really doesn’t want to be the MOH. However my mom thinks she has to be and went ahead and asked her to be it anyway. She told me she’d think about it, but really she is a freshman in college and by the time the wedding rolls around she will be around 20. Way too young for all the responsibilities. I’m waiting until she decides, but in all reality my best friend will be my MOH and I know my sister is ok with it.
Post # 13
@Miss Yoga Pants: Wow, that’s exactly the same story! I’m so glad I’m not alone! 🙂 Yeah, trust all of your instincts and go for the gold. My sister will be the same age too!
Post # 14
I have two sisters, one wasnt even in the wedding and the other was NOT my MOH, best decisions ever. you have to do what is right for you…and sometimes the right choice isnt always the easiest.
Post # 15
As some of the PP have said, my sister is 8 years younger than me and will be a freshman in highschool when FI and I get married. There was never any doubt that she would be a bridesmaid but definitely not my MOH 🙂
Post # 16
My sister was my maid of honor, but she has turned into a bridesmaidzilla (if that even is such a thing), so she has been asked to step down. I think its terrible when a sister can’t just be there for you 🙁