Sister pact among bridesmaids cont'

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
579 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

If it is THAT IMPORTANT you get your color, then YOU pay for all the extra alterations and stuff. Then everyone wins.

Post # 4
1236 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

If I were your bridesmaid, I would want you to say, “The bridesmaid color is tan. Any dress you can get that is comfortable for YOU (because 7 months is an awkward time for your body!) and your little one is fine. I look forward to seeing you at the wedding, and please let me know if there’s anything I can do to help out.” If you do care about her comfort – and you seem to be concerned about how you’re perceived on this point – that’s what you’ll say.

You’re allowed to call the shots for your wedding – specific color, specific dress, etc. But you also have to live with the consequences. It’s fine. However. If you make such enormous demands (huge uncomfortable dress, tons of alteration costs that you won’t pay for, etc) on your bridal ladies, they may back out. They may back out even if they still love you, and they may back out even if you think they “should” be able to afford a certain dress. If that happens, be gracious about it instead of making it all about why they’re ruining your Special Day.

If the dress is such a sticking point that it’s worth losing a bridesmaid over, that is your call to make. You can ask anything you want to ask of your bridesmaids. But I implore you to be sensitive, empathetic, and understanding if you make a request and the answer is “No.”


ETA: Yes, altering a huge dress down to fit an otherwise slimmer-but-pregnant person could alter the cut tremendously, depending on her current frame, her bump size, etc. It really depends on the dress, but it will likely not look the same because not all the proportions (bust, etc) will be the same.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 1 month ago by  rachel85.
Post # 5
42101 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999


AllyCRN:  If the lining is the only problem, she could choose an empire style dress and remove the lining from below the waist to give room for her belly. She can wear a maternity slip to prevent the dress from being see through.

Post # 6
2173 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I might be an idiot, but is there any reason she can’t just get an empire style dress in that color at DB?  There have been many pregnant BMs and many who have shopped at DB.  Just looking at the webpage and there are dozens of Biscotti options.

Post # 10
992 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I think that alterations can do absoulte wonders! However I wouldn’t even begin to be able to guess at what size dress to order to fit her comfortably. A good seamstress might be able to just modify the underskirt, and bust of dress a few sizes too big.

In the grand scheme of things being a bride I understand the bit about the color, finding the right color is hard.

Have you checked Alfred Angelo’s colors? The little color sawtches on their site have one that could be close to the Biscotti color that might work? Ofcourse a digital rendering of a color is redicuously hard to tell. But if it’s close enought it’d be a good compromise! <br /><br />Style 7016MA<br /><br />

I added the following before I read through your entire post about changing the color, but know someone could find it helpful. David’s just came out with a short and long maternity style…

Style F15725<br /><br />

and Style F15759<br />

Post # 12
1236 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

Biscotti looks like a generic enough sand/beige color that you should be able to find other designers who more-or-less match it. The AlfAngelo dress Lalavla posted is quite lovely, and looks comfortable.

Post # 13
5935 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013


AllyCRN:  Alfred Angelo is actually pretty reasonable with their prices. David’s Bridal might actually be a little more expensive depending on the dress. I’d definitely check out the Alfred Angelo color “Stone”.

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