(Closed) Sister responds….(LONG)

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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268 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

You know I pretty much had to do the same with my sister back in may 2010. We don’t talk now and I am perfectly fine with that since my life is less complicated without her shenanigans.

All I can say is good luck.

Post # 6
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630 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

i find it sad and sort of embaarassing that u interact w ur sister in this manner over facebook.. o cant even really comment on the contewnt of the messages because its just ridiculous

Post # 7
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1872 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

@flyinpig3: Yeah, I kind of agree. 

@Bellanouva: I am sorry about all the family drama that you’re experiencing. I realize that must be incredibly frustrating and isolating. And I’ve actually seen the other posts. 

But honey, at some point, you are barking up the wrong tree. When it dissolves into trading angry messages over facebook, I’m sorry but BOTH of you seem petty/self-absorbed/immature. Angry messages over facebook are for people to complain about so-and-so drunketydrunkskank made out with my boyfriend at that college party–it’s not family therapy. In fact, it’s pretty much the most passive-aggressive form of communication out there. In other words, both you and your sister are assuming the PRETENSE you are communicating, but what you’re really doing is shouting at each other. The chances of you getting your sister to say “Oh, I’m sorry–you’ve been right all along!” are about as likely as YOU suddenly coming around to HER point of view. And frankly, since it’s gone on this long, I think you really have to ask yourself: what are YOU getting out of this fight? Because clearly you are getting something out of it. 

I am sorry to be so blunt, but you did ask for opinions. 

Post # 10
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14503 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

My mom was reading your posts about your sister, and she applauded the way you handled the situation as do I.   She often reads WB, she is usually checking my post, but I pointed her to yours as she experienced something similar with her sister.  She said it was almost verbatim with her sister, only difference my mother was taking care of her dying mother.  I didn’t recognize that until she said it.  I am sorry that it came to this, but for every door closed a window is opened.  If you should need to chat, PM me.

Post # 13
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7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@Bellanouva: I understand your position and some of the other posters replies as well.  My brother and I do not speak. We only cross each others paths on holidays and really don’t exchange words directly to each other.  Our arguing was immature and nasty and it was better for us just to ignore each other than to engage in abusive emails/messages back and forth.

During a conversation we both stated we loved each other and would be there in an emergency situation, but just couldn’t engage in each others day to day life because of our diffence in views.

I’m not sure if this is advice but just a similar situation to perhaps compare yours too.

Post # 15
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6893 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I haven’t really followed your other posts on the subject, but I would like to say that it seems to be the right move to no longer engage in these types of discussions/arguments/what have you with your sister. It sucks that it has to be that way, but I think you’re making the right choice to remove the opportunity to repeat this over and over again.

At some point, people realize that “winning” isn’t the most important part. Maybe she will realize that one day.

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