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Bitter friend bringing me down...

Sister upset about blog post...

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
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    maureen9004    August 2008  

    The story:

      I have a private blog where I keep track of things I really love (i.e. wedding inspirations for my sister, clothing, my personal photos).  The public can view it, but not google search for it. The blog doesn't use my name, and if I refer to a family member they have "code names" I randomly made up.

      The problem:

      My sister borrowed my computer and found my blog through my bookmarks. She found an old post of my wedding photos- in one photo was my husband's college tennis pals and myself. For this photo I wrote the caption, "A's Tennis Pal's and to the left M who H hooked up with... I'm sure his girlfriend wasn't happy."  My sister was upset.   As soon as she told me it bothered her, I removed it.  When I looked at the photo that's what popped into my head, and I'm sorry for writing it in my blog. 

        My problem is I'm irritated. If she was a normal person, I would understand why it hurt her- but she's the girl (also my MOH) who refused to participate in the first dance, called husband's Aunt who was our wedding planner a b***h, threw a drink on my mother during the reception, and then preceeded to lay on top of a table and kick her feet and have a tantrum in front of all our guests (these are some of the gems.. there's more).  The evening ended with her peeling out of the parking lot drunk to go spend the night with this guy.  She was a peach.

       I feel like a jerk for feeling mad she's mad.  How can I fix this?

     

      I should probably mention she's an adult

     
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    Kittyachi    August 2010   New York

    HAHA omg sorry but those anecdotes were too funny. Um, in light of her behavior, the fact that she is upset about your blog post is laughable. I wouldn't feel bad. if anyone should feel bad, she should because (a) she was snooping, and (b) she sounds like she's done quite enough to cause you to be mad at her. It's something so stupid to begin with for her to be mad about so if it was me I wouldn't even acknowledge it and tell her to get over it.

     
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    Miss Cherry Limeade    10/9/10  

     I have to agree with kitttyachi.  You making an offhand comment on your PERSONAL blog really seems like nothing compared to the Girls Gone Wild stunts she pulled on your wedding day.  How long ago was your wedding?  If it was more than a month ago, then this should be old news to her.  I wouldn't be concerned that she's "upset" with you in the least.

     
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    Curlysue    June 5, 2009  

    I agree with the other girls. I wouldn't be too concerned. I think no matter what you do it won't be "right" to her and she will never accept whatever you try to calm the situation. Good luck. Oh, and an adult? Um, not really. Honestly, she sounds like my sister to a point. I feel for ya.

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    Yeeeah I triple agree with everyone above. You shouldn't get mad about things you shouldn't have found out anyways. IE she has no right to get pissy about a PRIVATE journal blog entry. Seriously, I wouldn't be upset at all if I were you. Sounds like she needs to grow up a LOT so it's best just to try to move on without feeling bad yourself

     
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    naangel55    June 20, 2009   Long Beach, CA

    Can I quadruple agree? :)  It was supposed to be private but I can understand how shed be a little upset.  Maybe you can just tell her you are sorry and you took it down and that will solve things?  It was a personal blog so I wouldnt be too concerned, its not like all her friends and everyone she knows is reading it.

     
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    budgetbeautiful    9/26/09   Fredericksburg, VA

    I'm actually amazed you haven't killed your sister yet with the way she behaved. I wouldn't sweat it!

     
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    mambinki    October 17, 2009   Seattle, WA

    Yep, I wouldn't sweat this too much.  Sounds like she's unstable! 

     
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    maureen9004    August 2008  

    Thanks everyone.  The wedding was a year ago, and the post was written sometime after I went through the wedding CD (so a few months back). I thought her reaction was stupid, but wasn't sure if I was totally insensitive- I didn't mean it how she took it, actually I didn't mean it in any certain way. Like I said, it's what pops into my head when I see certain pictures.  I'm accustomed to her behavior, it's not anything new. 

       I know she's going to talk to my parents though, they've been on my back because I've been distant from her for a few weeks. I love my parents, but they've enabled her to be the way she is and expect me to do the same.  After 20 some years, I'm getting sick of the drama.

     

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