Sister upsetting my mom

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1259 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I think you’re smart to wait to write to her however, I think you should. Don’t write to her to upset her or to argue. Simply tell it like it is. Do not name call or insult (I am not saying you will do this). That will only make things escalate and get out of hand. I think she needs to know that your parents aren’t trying to hurt her. Tell her that she is not being independent buy staying away from home and struggling. Her kids are the ones that are suffering.

I am sure you will know what to say when the time is right. Review your letter a few times before sending it. Write up everything you want to say, sleep on it, then send it if you feel you’re ready.

It is a really sad situation and I feel bad for your mom but this can be fixed. Good luck.

Post # 4
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42453 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Anna10-05-2014:  Many of us have family members who are users. I used to “rescue” one of my sisters, feeling sorry that her kids didn’t get vacations, inviting them to come to a cabin with us etc.

It took me  along time to realize  that I was just supporting my sister in her decision to not take responsibility for her own life. After we all stopped rescuing her, she decided she really didn’t like life on welfare and got a  job.

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