- 5 years ago
- Wedding: February 2013
Hi bees! I’m just looking for some feedback on my family situation. I’ve eluded to my sister and I’s relationship before but only in comments on others posts.
My sister and I are 10 years apart. She’s my only sister. She’s older and has never been a stellar big sister. She was never that sister that was excited to have a little sister nor did she take me places or spend time with me.
As an adult I’ve tried to create a relationship with her. It’s been okay – but I’ve come to the conclusion that we will never be close. However, since my engagement she’s taken things to a whole new level. The day we got engaged I called her to tell her – she was less than excited to say the least. She couldn’t even fake excitement over the phone. I asked her to be a bridesmaid and she said “no”. Okay…I understand she’s older so it might be uncomfortable. Whatever we aren’t close and I have friends I’d rather have standing next to me on that day anyway.
She was invited to a shower that my bridesmaids hosted in her hometown but she had to work. So my FMIL invited her to a shower she hosted in my hometown (1.5 hours away) and she came. Shocking! Of course she made my mom drive and stayed for the shower and that was it. Mind you I haven’t spoken a word to her in almost 10 months so apparently she wasn’t interested in catching up.
I invited her to come to the rehearsal dinner – not because I need her to do anything for the wedding but because I thought it would be nice to have my family there too. Of course she can’t – she has to work. Did I mention she’ll gladly take off time to go out to dinner with her bf’s sister and that she has 3+ weeks of vacation?
She’s also informed me she will not be attending the the dinner or reception portion of the wedding – she’s just coming to the ceremony. Oh and she better be able to bring her bf (um okay – of course I’d give her a +1). Her excuse isn’t work this time – her cat is sick and it needs insulin shots. Hmm…guess boarding it would be out of the question huh?
Quiet frankly I’m considering cutting her out of my life completely. I’m her only sibling and she can’t find time in her busy life to come to the entire wedding? My mom has offered to pay for her hotel room so it’s not a money thing.
Am I being unreasonable for being fed up?