Sister wanting to go on Husband and I’s trip.

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I would just call her and say something like “I’m really sorry and I hope I didn’t hurt your feelings. Normally I would be all for you coming along with us, but we’re just really looking forward to a roadtrip with just the two of us before the baby comes.”  Hopefully she’ll get the hint…

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@kcaggiebiz:  Uh, I think its a bit weird that your sis tried to finangle her way into your trip, to be honest.  I don’t think you should feel bad for saying no, it was rude of her to even ask.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

+1 to what Ryansgirl said. I’m an only child, so sometimes the sibling dynamic baffles me. But for me, I would NOT appreciate someone inviting himself/herself along on a vacation if it’s just me and SO! First, it’s rude to invite yourself somewhere out of the blue. Second, she should understand that you two want some time together before the baby comes. Try what Ryansgirl suggested saying, and if she doesn’t get the hint, then be more firm. Stick to your guns, and suggest that maybe the two of you can take a girls’ trip somewhere just the two of you.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@kcaggiebiz:  Yeah if I were you I wouldn’t feel bad. Sounds like you have a lot of perfectly valid reasons…and even if you didn’t, your sister doesn’t need to come along as a third wheel.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I get your pseudo-guilt, family stuff is awkward sometimes when you have to say no. I agree with above–if she brings it up again just say you’d be be glad to take a trip with her some other time but you really just want time with your husband before the baby comes. I’m surprised she’d invite herself since you’re pregnant and obviously want time AWAY. If it’s super awkward, say something in the meantime about her being a great future aunt or something. People love that stuff!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

@kcaggiebiz:  I would plan a different time to hang out with your sister. Maybe a weekend trip together? 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@BluebonnetBride:  It sounds like the sister “invited herself” because they had originally discussed taking a trip together around this same time… so maybe she thought she was part of that plan?

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