Post # 1
FI is at work today and I am feeling incredibly nauseas. As such, I am watching trashy television with furbaby. I have heard of sister wives, but I’ve never seen it before today. I have obviously heard of polygamous relationships before, but I admittedly don’t know how they function. I wonder if any bees have knowledge or experience with them (either from themselves or others).
- It seems that the man is able to have multiple wives, but the wives aren’t allowed to have multiple husbands. Is that normal? It hardly seems fair
- What about the kids? Seems so unfair. He is only there 1 of 4 nights?!
- The women seem incredibly submissive and willing to forgive anything this dude does (or doesn’t do): “Oh, just enjoy the time you have with him and be grateful.” Um, what?
The only foundation for polygamy that I personally am (somewhat) familiar with is Islam. I know other foundations must exist, but that’s the only one I know (they reference a church on the show but I don’t follow it closely enough to know which one).
- I believe the Quran says (and don’t quote me because I may be wrong) that a man can have multiple wives if he loves them all equally. Some see that as not condoning it because it isn’t possible to love all these folks equally
What are your thoughts? Do you think “sister wives” type relationships and “plural families” are sustainable? There must be a difference between plural families and couples who just have open relationships without combining them all.
Lord, I can’t even imagine.
Post # 3
@MrsPanda99: I can barely deal with one FI right now. XD I could never have enough strength to nag after two! LOL
Post # 4
I think that in the Mormon religion, polygamy started because women outnumbered the men so greatly when they settled out west. The women needed the men to take care of them, so they shared.
I’ve also heard that when a polygamous family happens now, the man does not make enough money to support everyone, and the wives get public assistance.
Post # 5
I thought polygamy was illegal in the US, but I guess not. It’s sexist and stupid. Ohhh the women need to marry this awesome guy so they can have lots and lots of children. Fuck that. They also look stupid. I don’t see how an intelligent woman would buy that shit.
Post # 6
@Chrysoberyl: LOL, one is more than enough for me too.
Post # 7
It’s not my choice, but I do find the show “Sister Wives” incredibly fascinating on a sociological perspective.
Post # 8
Polygamy can go both ways. When it comes to Mormons, it started with a man with multiple wives though, so the breakaway sects that still practice polygamy tend to be one sided that way. I suppose it’s possible that there are Mormon-related faiths where it’s one woman with multiple husbands, but it would surprise me!
Post # 9
@MrsPanda99: I think the whole “one man lots of wives but one woman gets only one husband” and submission comes from the LDS belief that the man is the head of the household and a “priesthood holder”. Don’t quote ME, but my understanding is that he’s basically sort of the prophet of his family.
There are plenty of references to multiple wives in the Old Testament. Men could have wives and concubines. However, the Sister Wives people are Fundamentalist Mormons, so their belief is coming from Mormon prophets, not from the Bible.
Post # 10
@MrsPanda99: @peachacid: I’m pretty sure Polygamy is illegal in the US, or at least most of it. I know the family on the show did have legal troubles. I’m also fairly certain that only his first marriage is actually recognized by the government. I have never seen the show, I refuse to watch it as it’s not a lifestyle I want any part of (my little way of taking a stand).
I know it’s only a small sect of Mormon people that believe in Polygamy and I believe it’s part of the reason there is division within the church.
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2014 - South Bonson Pier & Community Centre
@MrsPanda99: I know some Mormon sects (Fundamentalist Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints) are polygamous. There’s a huge thing in Bountiful, BC trying to break up the community because it’s supposedly a cult. I just read an auto-biography by Carolyn Jessup not too long ago (I think it’s called Escape). But yeah, just what I learned from documentaries I’ve read in school, or there was one guy in one of my college classes that used to live in Bountiful.
Post # 12
whoa! We’re talking about the basis of some peoples’ religious beliefs here. I hardly think it’s appropriate for us to call their way of life stupid just because its not something with which we can readily identify. Just wanted to throw that out there. Carry on.
Post # 13
I am also fascinated by this show! I don’t know how these women do it! Their children actually seem pretty well-adjusted, and despite random bouts of jealousy, the wives really rely on each other for the most support. It’s a very different perspective than other polygamy sects where the women and daughters are really oppressed, and everyone is living on a compound with little interaction with the outside world.
Post # 14
One woman with multiple husbands is polyandry and I think it’s extremely rare.
Post # 15
@AB Bride: I don’t think so. Joseph Smith was (supposedly) commanded by God to have multiple wives. Shortly after, his wife countered that SHE was given a commandment by God to have multiple husbands and Joseph basically called bullshit. Fundamentalist LDS, who are the ones who would belive in polygamy, are going to go with Joseph. Feminist LDS are not likely to follow polygamy at all. I mean, the whole point is that the man is the spiritual head of household. You can’t have multiple heads.
Post # 16
@abbie017: For me it’s like a person with three heads…I don’t want to look, but I can’t look away. I am outraged by half of what is being said, but just because it doesn’t work for me (and would never) doesn’t make it wrong if it works for others.
I texted FI and he said I am torturing myself, lol.