Sister/MOH being selfish?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll:
    Your sister is being a brat, book the venue : (17 votes)
    77 %
    Book the venue 3 hours away & hope your grandparents show up : (3 votes)
    14 %
    Other : (2 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
    267 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    I think your sister is being selfish, considering your reasoning behind choosing the same venue. 


    FYI she has no control over whether or not someone she knows get’s married there. That’s insane. She sounds insecure. 

    Post # 4
    3769 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 1999

    Do what ever you want, not what your sister wants, not what granny wants…and then don’t ask their opinions.

    Post # 5
    6633 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Um what? You sister is being a brat, she doesn’t own the venue, many people have probably used the same place to get married at. Use it anyway and tell your sister to grow the f up

    Post # 6
    6457 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’m on the fence about this. I think you should do what you want to do instead of trying to please everyone (by having it closer to your family) but I don’t think you should avoid that venue just because your sister was married there. I think it’s selfish of her to be upset about it (especially because of your reason for picking it!).

    So if you want to have it there (venue close to your family) go ahead. But I also think that if you really want that venue that is farther away in the city then you should go with that. Not because your sister doesn’t want you to get married at the same venue but rather because you would rather get married at the venue in the city.

    Would your grandparents still come if it was a few hours away? Can your family just spend the night instead of driving home after?

    Post # 7
    2642 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Your sister is being a brat.  Have the wedding where you want.  My brother and his FI are getting married at the same church and having their reception the same place H and I got did.  It’s seriously not a big deal at all. 

    Post # 8
    5697 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Just because she had her wedding in the ONE venue in town doesn’t mean its off limits to everyone else. If there was only one church would that be off limits too? She needs to get over herself. 

    Post # 9
    9137 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    @adknoxx99:  OMG, book the venue.  My entire family gets married in the same church, has their receptions in the same reception hall, and then uses the same funeral home and cemetery for their burials.  Trust me, nobody gets confused and mistakes one event for another.

    Post # 11
    2992 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Let me get this straight – there is only one venue in your town and your sister is upset because you are having your reception there? Yeah she is being a brat and she will get over it. Let her bitch all she wants. Your grandparents are more important. You already have made enough concessions for your family – no need to change your plans again for one family member with a chip on her shoulder.


    Post # 12
    2818 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Ask her straight up, “you know this is the only wedding venue in town. So are you saying you’d prefer me to have my wedding 3 hours away where grandma and grandpa won’t be able to come?”

    I’d be surprised if she comes right out and admits that her preference is more important than your elderly grandparents’ comfort. If it were me I’d throw in a line about “and I’m not even going to address that copying/outshining comment. You should know better than that.”


    Post # 13
    1234 posts
    Bumble bee

    @adknoxx99:   I would explain that I’d already looked at all of the venues within a reasonable radius, so unless she is willing to find another venue with all of your qualifications that is the venue you will use

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