Post # 1
Let me start by saying I live in a different state than where my wedding will be held (TX)
So, I’m from a small town in Texas and there isn’t much in my hometown other than a wal-mart and a small strip mall but my family is afraid to fly so FI and I decided to have our wedding back home, as his family flies frequently and have told us they have no problem traveling.
Ok so here’s the problem. My sister got married last year at this beautiful venue in our hometown, the ONLY venue in our small town. I initially didn’t want to get married at this venue because I knew my sister would be upset about it so I mainly looked at venues in the city to host our wedding.
FI and I found a beautiful venue within our price range but when I googled the adress I found out that it is 3 1/2 hours away and my family complained about that because, (A) it’s too far for my grandparents to travel, and (B) too much of a hassle, considering we’re having an evening wedding and our reception isn”t over until 11pm. My grandmother suggested that I have the reception at the same venue my sister got married. This is NOT what I wanted, but agreed for the sake of my grandparents.
Fast forward to today, my sister calls and says, “I don;t really wantpeople I know getting married where I got married, I feel like either their trying to copy my wedding or out shine mine” WTF really?!
My sister and I have totally different taste, wedding colors etc.
I have no idea what to do! It seems no matter what we do someone has a problem with it. Dop you think my sister is eing selfish? Or should I book the venue 2 hours away?
Post # 3
I think your sister is being selfish, considering your reasoning behind choosing the same venue.
FYI she has no control over whether or not someone she knows get’s married there. That’s insane. She sounds insecure.
Post # 4
Do what ever you want, not what your sister wants, not what granny wants…and then don’t ask their opinions.
Post # 5
Um what? You sister is being a brat, she doesn’t own the venue, many people have probably used the same place to get married at. Use it anyway and tell your sister to grow the f up
Post # 6
I’m on the fence about this. I think you should do what you want to do instead of trying to please everyone (by having it closer to your family) but I don’t think you should avoid that venue just because your sister was married there. I think it’s selfish of her to be upset about it (especially because of your reason for picking it!).
So if you want to have it there (venue close to your family) go ahead. But I also think that if you really want that venue that is farther away in the city then you should go with that. Not because your sister doesn’t want you to get married at the same venue but rather because you would rather get married at the venue in the city.
Would your grandparents still come if it was a few hours away? Can your family just spend the night instead of driving home after?
Post # 7
Your sister is being a brat. Have the wedding where you want. My brother and his FI are getting married at the same church and having their reception the same place H and I got did. It’s seriously not a big deal at all.
Post # 8
Just because she had her wedding in the ONE venue in town doesn’t mean its off limits to everyone else. If there was only one church would that be off limits too? She needs to get over herself.
Post # 9
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@adknoxx99: OMG, book the venue. My entire family gets married in the same church, has their receptions in the same reception hall, and then uses the same funeral home and cemetery for their burials. Trust me, nobody gets confused and mistakes one event for another.
Post # 10
Thanks everyone! A family friend emailed my sister to get info on the venue because she wanted to use this plae to renew her vows, sister never responded to her email saying she felt the lady was trying to copy her!
I’m so over her and her bratty ways. ugh
Post # 11
Let me get this straight – there is only one venue in your town and your sister is upset because you are having your reception there? Yeah she is being a brat and she will get over it. Let her bitch all she wants. Your grandparents are more important. You already have made enough concessions for your family – no need to change your plans again for one family member with a chip on her shoulder.
Post # 12
Ask her straight up, “you know this is the only wedding venue in town. So are you saying you’d prefer me to have my wedding 3 hours away where grandma and grandpa won’t be able to come?”
I’d be surprised if she comes right out and admits that her preference is more important than your elderly grandparents’ comfort. If it were me I’d throw in a line about “and I’m not even going to address that copying/outshining comment. You should know better than that.”
Post # 13
@adknoxx99: I would explain that I’d already looked at all of the venues within a reasonable radius, so unless she is willing to find another venue with all of your qualifications that is the venue you will use