(Closed) Sister/MOH refuses to wear “short” heels

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
9917 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Let her wear the tall shoes.  She’s the one who’ll stick out.  6″ heels sounds really difficult to walk in, for you, though…!!

Post # 4
6826 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Let it go, why stress about how she is going to look in heels. Do you really want to fight with your sister on this.  In the end it isn’t going to matter, everyone will know who the bride is and won’t be wisphering OMG her sister is taller than her….

Post # 5
891 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

It’s only 1 inch, let her wear the 4 inch heels. An extra inch isn’t going to the end of the world aesthetic wise.

I’m more concerned about you wearing 6″ heels! Hopefully they have a platform more than 1″!

Post # 6
2889 posts
Sugar bee

This is one issue that I’ll never have with brothers 😉 Honestly, I would not make a big deal over an inch. If she normally wears 4 inch heels, then I would let it be. If you really want to appear to be the tallest sister, make your hair more raised than hers.

Post # 7
1352 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

She won’t be towering over you by being 1″ taller than you.  I think you should let wear the 4″ heels.  I personally also wear 4″ heels on a daily basis so I wouldn’t want to pay for a 3″ heel I’d never wear again.

Post # 8
1482 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Oh sweetie. There has got to be something else more important that you can worry about. You’re really being very silly about this.

This is your sister. Who cares if she’s a smidge taller than you in photos? Who cares if she is a smidge taller than the groomsman who walks with her down the aisle? NO ONE! No one will notice.

Honestly, what would you do if your sister was 5’10 in real life? Chop her off at the ankles to make her the same height as you for your wedding day? 🙂

Time to move on to worrying about something more important, such as maintaining a relationship with your sister so that she still likes you after your wedding is over…..

Post # 9
9552 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I can totaly understand your frustration since you’re being so lenient about everything else but I have to agree with PPs that you should let it go. I don’t think it will be a big deal at all if she’s an inch taller than you or a bit taller than her escort. This is what she normally wears and it’s SO not worth fighting over. It’s just not that big a deal. Not worth your stress. For picutres you could always stand on a step above her!

Post # 10
1736 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Personally if my sister/MOH said that to me, I’d probably smack her for being a brat. 🙂 That said, just let it go. You could mention to the photographer that you want the pics to look good and suggest that he/she have her step out of the heels for photos (if the dress is long). Otherwise, let her look awkward! It’s her own fault!

Post # 11
3000 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

My sister (MOH) and my cousin (bridesmaid) are both 5’9″ or 5’10” and I am 5’7″. I am wearing about 3 inch heels so I’m not as tall as Fiance, but who cares what they wear? They will be taller than me regardless. No one will be thinking “oh look at how tall that bridesmaid is!” They’ll be looking at you!

Post # 13
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I wore flats at my wedding and my MOH/cousin still wanted to wear gigantic heels. It did kind of bug me and I really wanted them to wear flats…but in the end I had enough to worry about without adding her height/shoes to the list. On the day of the wedding it definitely wasn’t on my mind.

Post # 14
547 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012


I think she is being a brat also and it’s sillier she is being difficult about shoe height then it is the bride who is concerned with HER wedding photos.  I understand your frustrations.  I will let you know  

My SIL and Bridesmaid or Best Man who is already 2 inches taller than me wore higher heels than I did as well and I just looked at my photos to see why I didn’t notice it and surprisingly somehow the photographer made her look same height and in some photos even a bit shorter

Post # 15
11234 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I don’t know, I think your sister is being a huge brat and should just do what you want, seeing as you’re the bride and all. You’ve been super flexible about everything else, why can she not handle wearing ONE pair of shoes on YOUR wedding day. 

Post # 16
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

I don’t think it’s worth it to get into it over an inch. Honestly, is it really going to be THAT noticable in pictures that she’s an inch taller than you? It’s not like she’ll be towering a foot over you or antyhing. I think you should just let this one go. So not worth it.

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