Post # 1
Needing some advice !! As my mum who I usually talk to is staying stum and won’t help!!
I have already asked my sister in law to be to be my bridesmaidbrides as I am very close to her. The problem is whether to ask my 2 sisters.
I get on rather well with my younger sister but my older sister is rather domineering and we never really see eye to eye. My younger sister is lovely but can be difficult if she doesn’t have the perfect outfit!! I have a feeling that instead of being supportive in my decisions they will dictate to what they will wear, etc rather than concentrate on how my finace and I want the day to go.
Also my older sister is getting married this year and asked my younger sister to be her bridesmaid and not me which was rather hurtful. I don’t know whether it is easier if they just come to the wedding as guests and ask my 2 best friends to be bridesmaids instead?
Post # 3
I would just sit and talk with your two sisters. I know how frustrating it can be to not always get along with your sisters. I would just let them know how you want things. If they are not willing to cooperate, then you can go and ask someone else to be your bridesmaid. You should not have to deal with the stress of your sisters.
Post # 4
Yeah I guess that is the best way. I’m just trying to avoid it as I know that I was upset when my sister didn’t ask me. I don’t want to let our previous fallings out blind me in my decision. I know they would love to do it but then so would my friends. I will have to think long and hard! Difficult as my FI has told me not to put myself through the stress of having them as bridesmaids! So hard to please everybody.
Post # 5
You could just make them bridesmaids. I’d just pick a maid of honor that can keep them in line. That way if they start acting up or stressing you out you can rely on her to diffuse the situation before it gets out of hand. Good luck! Honesty is best though so if you’re not picking them I’d definitely sit down and tell them why.
Post # 6
I knew I wanted my sister to be in my wedding from the day I got engaged. My sister is my twin! and I made her my MOH! My sister is a tomboy and not a dress type of girl, so I didn’t want her to buy a NEW dress just for my wedding. I made her try on the dress she wore when she and I both were in a friends wedding a few years ago and guess what? IT FIT HER STILL!! I was so estatic! That’s how I decided on colors too!
Post # 7
I wouldn’t feel obligated to include them. Personal attendants, readers, etc maybe if at all. I would be upset to not be included but at the end of the day you need to be able to trust those standing up there with you and helping you along the way.
I’ve had issues with my 2 future sister in laws that I asked to stand up because I never thought they wouldn’t be supportive. In fact, they were telling me what I need to do b/c that’s how their family did it and it became a fight. My advice: pick carefully and not out of obligation.