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On Sunday (Valentine's Day), my sister changed her facebook status from "single" to "engaged" to a coworker. I wasn't sure how to react to this. As far as I'd known, she wasn't dating anyone, and I'd never met or heard of the guy she was now linked to on facebook. I wasn't sure how to believe it, and I thought it might be a joke. So I teted her, asking questions like "Who is ---- and why does it say you're engaged to him on facebook?" I texted a cousin as well, who's probably closer to my sister than I am. Cuz suggested that sis might be pregnant, which made me start to freak out. Finally I congratulated my sister, and then she told me it was a joke.
The prank didn't stop there, though. My sister posted multiple status updates about it, including ring pictures, as well as responded to congratulations personally. Over 45 people have posted on her wall to congratulate her. She posted things like "I would have been happy with a ring from a gumball machine." Her roommate is in on it and posted a 25-pic photo album of my sis and this guy being cute and romantic and showing off a ring. Our aunts and almost all of her sorority sisters still think she's really engaged.
What do you think of this? It kind of makes me uncomfortable. I worry that when she does eventually get engaged, she will have cheapened it with this elaborate prank. People won't be as excited for her twice. She'll be the girl who cried engaged.
This whole thing also makes me worried that my sister is not dealing with me getting married so well. I'm less than a year older than she is (I'm 25, she's 24). She hasn't had any serious relationships since her heart got broken soon after she graduated college. When I finally got out of her that she was joking, she said, "Like anyone would ever propose to me" which is BS because the reason so many people fell for this prank was because she's such a great catch! In fact, she's always been "the pretty one" and in high school I was convinced she would beat me to the altar even though I'm older. Do you think there's anything I should be doing to make her feel better about this situation, or is she a big girl who can take care of herself?
I've also put a poll because I want to hear what others think of this prank and if I'm overreacting.
I think that's a pretty dirty prank. Especially to keep it going liek that with comments & pictures of a ring. I'd say Bad Idea. Way Rude for the people who are genuinlly happy for her. Especially for family to think it's the truth....... YIKES
I don't think it really concerns you (like your fault or you have to do something about it), but I do think it might hurt people who are sincerely excited for her and are getting taken for a ride. Also, it does sound like she has self-esteem issues about being in a relationship. I wouldn't make a fuss about it to her, though. If anything, she may need you to be there for her in a non-weddingy way. If you do think that your wedding is what prompted her stunt, maybe try not to talk about it with her too much for a while. Give her some wedding space?
If she's not really engaged then she has no business lying to the world claiming that she is. She needs to be called out on it. She'll have to learn the hard way that if she lies enough, people won't believe her when something real actually happens.
I think that's a pretty bad prank. A lot of people will be upset with her and she'll regret doing it. I can't really understand why she's doing it. Whether its for attention or she's mocking someone else, its kinda lame.
I think that's a super weird "prank" and probably does have some underyling meaning. She's a big girl, but maybe she IS having a tough time with this. Hang out with her, leave the wedding stuff out, and just be her sister. Make sure she's ok. After all, it was Vday and that makes some women kinda loopy anyways. Esp single women
I had a friend who did the same thing last year. It's in very poor taste. I find it to be attention seeking.
I think it was a stupid thing to do, but sometimes it's a joke in the moment. When I was 18 I jokingly changed my status to married because FSIL kept teasing us that we were an old married couple... no one commented there, but a couple people jokingly brought it up later like, "did you elope?"
It's in poor taste, but she'll have to deal with the misunderstanding. You can think it's immature, and it is, but beyond that it's for her to deal with.
It seems like she might be a little jealous or feel a little left out somehow, since you are getting all the love attetntion. Especially, being single on valentines day.
The prank was a little strange (ok, really strange), but an obvious cry for attention. I am not saying that she needs/deserves the attention though.
Had she ever pulled stunts like this before when you were growing up?
She needs to grow-up... and unfortunately she has cheapend the moment when she finally is newly engaged...
Wow, thanks for the validation that I'm not the only one who thinks this is weird!
Wow....I could see it being a joke if you were maybe still in college & only changed your status....but to post a bunch of fake pictures & respond to comments while your sister is really engaged?? Ummm, I think she took that one a bit too far. I'm sorry honey! It sucks how competitive sister can be! I would just ignore it, my sister makes a lot of comments about being "alone" since I got engaged, it's hard.
I voted for "she must be unstable", "kind of pathetic, really" and that people may be disappointed and hurt.
It's really quite strange what she did - it's very elaborate. I would try and have a serious talk with her to find out why she did this.
It's in poor taste for the reasons you described. I think she really does have some jealousy/attention seeking issues. This may seem "out on a limb" but sometimes as brides we forget how upsetting weddings can be when we're single. Just my humble opinion.
wow...I would not go that far for a facebook prank.
Perhaps its social commentary on how our lives can be faked on the internet? If not... she's unstable.
Um - I hope her coworker is in on this "joke". Otherwise work could be a little, um, awkward.
Thats just crazy to me!! I would think it would be a hassle having to explain that it was a prank! ITs just too much drama and not worth the "joke"!
Yeah, her coworker knows about it. He's in the pics, and I think he would have had to confirm on facebook that they're engaged.
I'm not sure how much of this is about competition with me. I don't want to see it in such a self-centered way, like it has to be about me when it could just be about her. I don't think I've been too obnoxious as a bride. I know if I try to talk to her about it, she'll just say it was a joke and pretend like that is that and it excuses the whole thing. Hopefully when people are still asking her about this months from now, she'll have learned her lesson.
I don't think it's very nice and it will definintely come back to bite her when she really DOES get engaged, but I don't think she's unstable. I'm sure watching her sister get engaged/ married is hard after she's had her heart broken and in some way thinks that this might be the only way to get attention. I'd spend some quality time with her that doesn't involve wedding planning in any way, shape, or form. I'm sure she's feeling a little left out.
Marjojo she just wants attention most likely cause you are getting married this year. The whole situtation is really strange. You should talk to her and if she gives you a b.s. answer just take it and move on. If she doesn't want to be honest with you just let it go. And remember you are getting married!! How exciting!
Yeah, that's kind of a weird prank, but I wouldn't take personal offense to it.
I also don't really understand people being married or engaged to close friends on Facebook (my younger cousin is "married" to her best friend) but different people (and ages) think different things are funny.
Am I the only one who thinks this is really funny? Regardless of the comments she's made in the past, I just find it kind of humorous. But then, I am a big fan of the elaborately laid out joke.
I think it's funny if maybe going a little too far. I would bet it has more to do with the coworker and their work environment than you.
I also don't think it's going to cheapen her real engagement later or cause her regret - having random ppl be happy for you and congratulate you on a relationship they didn't know you had isn't really key to being happy to be engaged IMO and IMO it wouldn't have bothered me much if ppl didn't believe I was engaged who cares?
Hmmm..definitely weird and poor taste! When she finally let's the cat out of the bag, there will definitely be consequences for her actions, BUT I don't think you should take it so personal, don't lose any sleep over her stupidity
This is REALLY weird.....
I'm confused, pranks have a purpose, what is the purpose of this one? I don't get it.....
It's a petty prank where she doesn't know where to draw the line. Leave the prank alone but maybe spend time with her as a sister. If she's having a hard time with you getting married she'll appreciate that you still love her as a sister and maybe she just needs to know that she won't be left on her own. But she's already become the "girl that cried engaged" and you can't do anything to stop that now - calling her up on it might make her angry, especially as she seems so hellbent on deceiving everyone. Let her do what she wants to do. She'll get called out on it soon and then she'll be sorry and she'll have to pay the consequences of her own actions.
Yeah, that's a little off. I've seen people put "engaged to so and so" as a joke, but I've never seen anyone respond to comments, make photo albums about it, etc. It sounds like she's suffering from extreme jealously about your engagement.
I think its odd but kind of amusing. Mostly beacuse facebook can be such a rumor mill that you can get things to spread like wildfire. Its not really my kind of joke- but I think its pretty harmless.
I agree with Rainbow - I've seen people jokingly put the "engaged" status up there - but to post photos, and reply back to comments is more than a little weird!
Eh, it's bizarre, but not a big deal.. I'm sure she won't dwell and brood and regret it later though - even though facebook is a good social networking tool, it's also just a website, where you can post whatever you want. You can lie about whatever you want, too. I think the real joke is on the people constantly monitoring facebook, to be honest. True close friends will just call and find out it's a prank, and be done with it.
I feel like the just changing her status thing was a "prank", tons of my friends have fake relationships on facebook to be cute, but then everything beyond that is a bit odd. I don't really think it's a huge deal (I def don't think it will cheapen any future engagement), it just seems a little too much effort. I didn't update my facebook status to engaged till FI sent me the request about a month after we got engaged for real. Hopefully she's not just feel stuck in a lie and afraid to fess up!
Wow...that's a pretty elaborate prank and I think people who are genuinely happy will be hurt that she not only played the prank but hasn't yet fessed up about it.
it sounds like she wants attention, and her wish was fulfilled....hopefully she won't regret it later when she really is engaged!
It's a little weird that she'd go to those lengths, but I don't think it's a big deal. Let her have her little joke! It sounds like she's amused by it, and no one is hurt by it.
It'll come back to bite her when she is really engaged!
I think it is weird and kind of in bad taste...
I didn't think it was that bad until I kept reading and saw how elaborate she got, that is what is a bit much to me!
Hmmm...while I grew up with brothers, I have enough girlfriends to know that this is an act to get attention for herself. I'm sorry that your sister can't give you the spotlight you deserve for your big year.
Sorry, but your sister seems really immature for her age. I don't understand what she's getting out of this. A prank is usually funny- but this one's pretty lame. And to keep it up with elaborate comments and pics, etc.- come on. That's something a child or a teenager would do.
I don't think you should get involved or say anything to her- clearly she finds herself amusing and will likely tell you you're overreacting. She'll get the picture once people find out that she lied in an effort to "punk" them- and they will likely think less of her. At a minimum, they will just think she's dumb and immature.
I think the prank is pretty lame - but I also don't see what the big deal is. When she gets engaged "for real", wouldn't she notify her close family and friends using methods other than facebook? And wouldn't you guys all get a "heads up" for an engagement when she has a serious boyfriend?
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