Sister's hand me down ring…is this weird?

posted 2 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

texaslemon:  I don’t think it’s that weird that she wants to use the same heirloom… but I’m not superstitious and don’t hold that much sentiment into material items. For someone who is, I can see how that would be a big problem.

I suppose she’ll find out how her BF feels about it when and if he proposes.

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

I don’t think it’s strange. If it makes your sister happy, why question it?

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Nope – I don’t think it’s strange. Or any of your business. If he has a problem with it, that’s up to him. 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i don’t find this strange.  is it something i would do? it is hard to say not being in the situation.  my diamond is heriloom from my grandmother so i would have definately kept my ring and done something with it.

 

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

The ex didn’t buy it for her, so I don’t think it’s weird.  It be weird to me if it was purchased by the ex and being used as is without being rest or anything.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think it’s different, but not strange. No different than anyone else who chooses to wear their heirloom ring. There’s not a thing wrong with it.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

texaslemon:  It would be different if it was her ex’s family heirloom that she wanted to get married in.  this is y’alls so I don’t see it as such a big deal.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Wrong thread.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

You said yourself that your sister “just put this ring on her finger”.  Her ex didn’t propose with the ring, her ex didn’t give it to her.  She put it on her own finger and chose to wear it.  Therefore, it’s not another man’s ring. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

The whole thread I kept thinking “why do you CARE?” 

it’s not your relationship, your engagement, or your finger. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

texaslemon:  That ring has way too much baggage. Yes, I think it’s very weird. 

 

Post # 13
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Busy bee

 

JenGirl:  Agreed! If this post came from the sister (As in: “Would it be wierd to suggest to my BF that we an heirloom as an engagment ring when the time comes), I think this would be a much more valid post. No offense to OP, but not your relationship, not your problem.

texaslemon:  Personally, I tend to lean more towards being overly financially conservative. By this I mean, when it comes to wedding planning, I’m saving money where ever I can. If this whole situation were an option for me, I’d totally be doing the same thing your sister is. Why spend the extra dough (which could be used on a house or go towards your actual wedding-day budget) when you’ve already got a fantastic ring?

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Agreed. I personally don’t find it weird at all. It’s your family hierloom, the ex didn’t buy the ring. I can see how she would still think this is her ring. If the ex had bought it though.. Then it would be weird. Unless he’d passed on our something, then it would be sad and beautiful. But im rambling. This is fine!!!

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

People here are kind of rude! She found it strange and wanted to know if other people thought so too. That’s it! Why reply, “it’s none of your business. Why do you care?”

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