Post # 1
My sister inherited our Great Aunt’s engagement ring and wedding band set when she passed. They are soldered together.
She was engaged almost 6 years ago and they used this set as her engagement ring. He never really proposed they just kind of “agreed” to get married and she put this ring on her finger. Since this was what she wanted, he didn’t bother to buy her anything. This would have been her wedding set.
They broke off the engagement after a year, and she continuted to wear the ring on the other hand. To this day, she wears it on her other hand. She has a new boyfriend who she is talking about marrying. She still wears it. I jokingly asked her if she planned on still using it as her wedding set, and she said yes! I asked her if she would be willing to get it re-set or something, and she said no, she liked it the way it was.
I understand she loves it and it is a family ring, but how weird would that be for HIM knowing that it was another man’s engagement ring? Even if he didn’t actually buy it for her, I still would feel weird knowing it was “used” before. That is not the type of heirloom I would want haha. It’s not like it is our mother’s ring, or a family member that was particularly close to us.
I don’t think he really knows how much she is thinking of them getting married (she is one of THOSE ) but I am anxious to see how that talk goes.
Post # 2
texaslemon: I don’t think it’s that weird that she wants to use the same heirloom… but I’m not superstitious and don’t hold that much sentiment into material items. For someone who is, I can see how that would be a big problem.
I suppose she’ll find out how her BF feels about it when and if he proposes.
Post # 3
I don’t think it’s strange. If it makes your sister happy, why question it?
Post # 4
Nope – I don’t think it’s strange. Or any of your business. If he has a problem with it, that’s up to him.
Post # 5
i don’t find this strange. is it something i would do? it is hard to say not being in the situation. my diamond is heriloom from my grandmother so i would have definately kept my ring and done something with it.
Post # 6
The ex didn’t buy it for her, so I don’t think it’s weird. It be weird to me if it was purchased by the ex and being used as is without being rest or anything.
Post # 7
I think it’s different, but not strange. No different than anyone else who chooses to wear their heirloom ring. There’s not a thing wrong with it.
Post # 8
texaslemon: It would be different if it was her ex’s family heirloom that she wanted to get married in. this is y’alls so I don’t see it as such a big deal.
Post # 10
You said yourself that your sister “just put this ring on her finger”. Her ex didn’t propose with the ring, her ex didn’t give it to her. She put it on her own finger and chose to wear it. Therefore, it’s not another man’s ring.
Post # 11
The whole thread I kept thinking “why do you CARE?”
it’s not your relationship, your engagement, or your finger.
Post # 12
texaslemon: That ring has way too much baggage. Yes, I think it’s very weird.
Post # 13
JenGirl: Agreed! If this post came from the sister (As in: “Would it be wierd to suggest to my BF that we an heirloom as an engagment ring when the time comes), I think this would be a much more valid post. No offense to OP, but not your relationship, not your problem.
texaslemon: Personally, I tend to lean more towards being overly financially conservative. By this I mean, when it comes to wedding planning, I’m saving money where ever I can. If this whole situation were an option for me, I’d totally be doing the same thing your sister is. Why spend the extra dough (which could be used on a house or go towards your actual wedding-day budget) when you’ve already got a fantastic ring?
Post # 14
Agreed. I personally don’t find it weird at all. It’s your family hierloom, the ex didn’t buy the ring. I can see how she would still think this is her ring. If the ex had bought it though.. Then it would be weird. Unless he’d passed on our something, then it would be sad and beautiful. But im rambling. This is fine!!!
Post # 15
People here are kind of rude! She found it strange and wanted to know if other people thought so too. That’s it! Why reply, “it’s none of your business. Why do you care?”