Post # 1
I just needed to share. My sister is almost fully effaced…I guess my nephew is about to pop out any minute now. And only 3 days to go (though the pre-wedding festivities are in full swing). I’m not entirely certain how I’m feeling. Is it okay to feel a little bit sad that she won’t be part of it even if I’m excited about the baby? I know she’ll try to make it to the ceremony on Saturday if at all possible…but obviously it’s impossible to say if that will happen.
On the plus side, my cousin managed to stalk her department head enough that he’s allowing her to miss the first day of her Radiology Fellowship so that she could come. She flew 24 hours to attend for exactly three days. She’s leaving for the airport 15 minutes after my ceremony (pretty good incentive to start on time, eh?). Whew! What a week! I had just resigned myself to her not coming…
Post # 3
Wow what a busy week for you! Congrats to you and your sister! If she’s almost fully effaced, I’m sure she will have your nephew in the next few hours (depending on which baby this is for her). If she’s having a vaginal delivery, she should be well enough to be discharged after 24-48 hours. C-sections usually take longer to heal, and thus moms (and babies) stay in the hospital longer. Just play it by ear… your sister JUST MIGHT be able to attend your wedding… depending on how she feels. I know moms who are up and on their feet just a couple days after giving birth. See how she feels… you never know! Keep us posted! Good luck to you and your sis! 🙂
Post # 4
And I thought I was busy! Good luck to you!
I think it is TOTALLY ok to be sad about this. Don’t feel bad at all. It’s not selfish to want your sister there even though you understand why she might not be! I’m sure she feels the same way, there just isn’t much you can do about it. I have the same situation with one of my BM’s who will not be able to attend anymore due to completely unavoidable situation, and it sucks and I’m sad. But it’s life.
On another note, be glad that your sister probably WANTS to be there! Mine could care less about the wedding or anything wedding related! It’s awful!!! And your cousin wins the gold star award!!!
Post # 5
Aw, I’m sure your sister will make it if she can. There is a good possibility.
I’m glad your cousin could make it. Enjoy the coming days!
Post # 6
Wow, there is a lot going on in your life! You’re doing great though and have a great attitude, which i’m sure must be fairly difficult at this point! It is totally okay to feel a bit sad about your sister maybe not making it, even though you’re happy for her and your soon to be nephew. She will of course make it if she can. Are you having a videographer? Maybe you can tape a little something just for your sister and the baby. I’ll bet it’s pretty neat that all this is happening at the same time and later you’ll look back on it, and it will be really cool to share this day (or general time) with your nephew. hang in there, enjoy yourself and send lots of love to your sister! It’ll be fabulous, I promise. 🙂
Post # 7
My goodness – what a lot of emotions! Wedding excitement, baby excitement, good news on your cousin and potential sadness if your sister can’t be there. ALL of these are justified — these are HUGE.
Like ddubzz said above, if everything goes well, your sister may be able to make it to your wedding (probably a little sore and a bit tired, but I’m sure she’d really want to be there if she could)! Keep us updated and let us know when the little one arrives. Congrats on becoming and Aunt (and a wife) in just one short week!
Post # 8
Awww..Fizicsgirl I know how you feel. My sister is due to give birth to her second baby girl on December 8th – just a week and a half before my wedding! She’s my MOH and I’m really sad that she probably won’t be able to be at my bachelorette party, although I am fairly sure she’ll be at the wedding. I told her she better have that baby on time! I do not want any babies born at my wedding! 🙂
I wish your sister the best and hope that she can make it to your wedding! and…yay! – you’re gonna be an auntie!
Post # 9
Oh man, so much going on! Hopefully your sis will be able to at least make the ceremony. Most important part, right? And yes, it’s ok to be sad that she can’t come! It’s a big day in your life! And of course you’re still excited about your nephew. It’s totally normal to want your sis with you. I can’t wait to see your pics! I love Indian weddings =].
If not, maybe a tech savvy friend can livestream it to her.
Post # 10
What a crazy week! It’s certainly ok to feel sad she can’t be there. I’m sure your sister is feeling a bit emotional about it too, excited about the birth of her son, but sad to be missing things. I would make it a point to make a toast in their honor at the reception.
You may even want to consider letting your sis off the hook – as far as trying to make it. Chances are she’ll be feeling pretty sore and tired. I would set aside a special time during the reception to step away and call her. It’ll make you both feel like she’s a bigger part of your day.
And of course – Congrats on the new nephew!
Post # 11
Awwww…thanks all! It’s been just a crazy, crazy time these last few days. The festivities have started, and there’s very little down time. I’ve gotta be at my parents house in an hour. My nephew was born at 11:57PM last night, though I don’t know his name yet. I think we may head there after the rehearsal dinner tonight.
It feels so weird, like I’m supposed to be with her but we have all these people in town who’ve traveled from all over to be here for my wedding…so I need to be with them instead. I guess maybe she feels the same way, though.
Post # 12
Congrats on your new nephew that cery exciting! Hopefully your sister will be able to recover today and tomorrow and be able to be with you on Saturday to celebrate your wedding day. It must be an insane time for your family right now, but just remember that it’s a celebration and all of your family & friends are sending you their love and best wishes, even if they can’t be there to celebrate with you and your fi.
Post # 13
YAY congratulations on the new nephew!!! Its a bittersweet time, just remember that she is probably feeling the same way you are. You can always sneak away to go say hi, dont feel obligated to entertain those who have traveled. Family takes precedence over all else. Congratulations again Aunt FizicsGirl!!
Post # 14
Well, you’re having a week of double blessings! Yes, you are right in being upset that your sister won’t be able to take part in the festitivites, I’m sure she’s probably bummed about it too. Hopefully she’ll be feeling okay enough to at least drop by on Saturday.