Sister's invite

posted 3 years ago in Paper
Post # 2
658 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I wouldn’t sweat it. As much time as we all spent on the details, I’d wager you’re the only one (including your sister!) who remembers what your invitations looked liked. 🙂

Post # 3
8456 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

vanessa7:  Honestly, most wedding invitations look very similar.  Unless you’re doing a completely custom designed suite, and even then, a very comparable design is probably out there.  I wouldn’t worry too much about it since most people won’t remember what the invitation looks like.

Post # 4
4483 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Maybe it wasn’t even intentional, “your” design just resonated with her because she’d seen it before somewhere. Honestly, your parents are probably the only 2 people in the world who will save a copy of both.

Post # 5
7467 posts
Busy Beekeeper

vanessa7:  Ask yourself this….in the grand scheme of things does it really matter? Is this going to dramactically affect your life in any way, shape or form?

If the answer is no then it is time to move on.

Post # 8
2649 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

vanessa7:  Wow.  This is petty.  

Have you considered that the similarity is a complete coincidence? Your invitations sound pretty standard to me.  Even if your sister liked yours and wanted something similar, so what? It actually would be a compliment. 

I always get a kick out of brides who get bent out of shape if not completely flip out when their friends or family “copy” what amounts to a fairly typical wedding or trendy theme.

“That bitch is totes copying my vintage/rustic/burlap/mason jar wedding!”

You say your wedding was several months ago? Absolutely no one remembers or cares what your invitations looked like.  Even if she straight up copied every element of your wedding why would it matter? It’s just another wedding to everyone else.  Why is this even bothering you? 

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 8 months ago by  Zhabeego.
Post # 9
1337 posts
Bumble bee

Maybe your sister really did copy your invitation design for her own wedding.  Regardless, your wedding has already passed so her “copying” your invites will not take away from the wedding you experienced.  Unless the two of you have a sibling rivalry going on where you have serious issues with her copying you in any way, I’d just let it go. 

Maybe take that saying to heart, “Imitation is the highest form of flattery.”

Post # 11
2649 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

vanessa7:  The fact that this bugged you enough to start a thread about it certainly indicates you are having some level of heartburn over the matter, yes.  I wasn’t bitchy to you – you’re being petty. 

Post # 12
1236 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

I’m one of those rare people who keeps copies of invites; they all look about the same to me (generally something floral, with a lot of scripty cursive fonts). So maybe your sister didn’t copy you, you just both went with trendy common ideas.

Post # 14
2661 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I promise you, you are the only person who remembers what your invitation looked like. I’m old and have been to a million weddings. I remember no invitations. I rarely remember a dress. Don’t sweat it. 🙂

Post # 15
913 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard

I was going to say the same thing. I do not remember one invitation at all with all the weddings i’ve been to. Hundreds. Not one do i remember.

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