(Closed) sister's MOH: not allowed to talk about wedding? huh?

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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864 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@chillinchillin:  If you read the friend stole my theme/colors threads that appear on here often you might understand why she would want to keep some things to herself. Also, you might want your guests to be surprised by your decor that you’ve worked so hard on coordinating.

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t think it’s that big of a deal, I mean its not like you told her full details like the set up and the decor you just told the theme. I would take it as a compliment if someone went with my idea “AFTER” my wedding, but hey thats just me.

 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Haha… I kinda know how she feels..

Although my theme isn’t a big secret, there are some little details I dont want any of my friends to know about since we live in a small town.. EXAMPLE: I have 3 other friends getting married this summer and they’re weddings were ALL before mine… Well at our wedding, when people want us to kiss (usually they cling there glass, where I live..) we are going to call out names of couples like “brides mom and dad” and they have to do a kiss that they want us to mimic … Its a super fun game and I stole it from one of my friends who got married like 4 years ago…  I didnt want any of the other girls to know I was doing this because were having like the same people at both our weddings.. Well my FI told one of his engaged guy friends about my idea and they used it at there wedding in June.. Oh well what can I do about it! Soooo.. if there were going to be the same people at both the wedding I understand what she means.. She wants her day to be unique and special and not look like an exact replica of someone elses wedding. 

Post # 6
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851 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@chillinchillin:  Your sister probably could have approached it differently, but honestly I can understand her perspective. Since putting together a wedding is SO much work, and for a lot of people incredibly personal, I can understand why she might want to keep things under wraps until the big day. Even if she’s not worried about anyone stealing her theme, maybe she also just wants people to have a full experience when they attend her wedding, and if they already know about all the little personal details and touches, it might take away from all her hard work.

 

There’s also the possibility that she’s trying to avoid having to talk about wedding details with every. single. person. she. encounters. I get it, it’s so exhausting, and can make you tired of your own ideas, haha! Maybe she just wants things to be fresh and fun and exciting!

Post # 7
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Helper bee

Your sister is funny and sounds very uptight. I agree it isn’t like she is a princess that EVERYONE is just dying to find out ever detail so they can copy. Also, isn’t copying a huge form of flattery. I would just tell people you trust very few details and explain your sister wants the wedding to be a surprise.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I can understand where your sister is coming from.  We had to stop giving details about our wedding to friends and family because everyone came out of the woodwork with unsolicited advice and opinions on everything.  It became extremely frustrating and stressful to have people telling us what we should and shouldn’t do, what would and wouldn’t look nice, etc.  We want a wedding that’s a reflection of us, not a reflection of everyone else’s opinions!

Post # 9
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2009 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I get where she’s coming from, but writing it out does sound ridiculous.

Post # 11
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131 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I stopped telling anyone except my FI about wedding details because a girl I know whom is also getting married kept taking my ideas. So now everything is pretty much top secret.

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