Post # 1
ok here is some background.. FI and i moved to where we live about a year ago. We live in a beach town and 99.99% of our guests are out of town. We are having a nautical themed wedding on the intercoastal waterway starting at 11am and reception immediately following. We threw around a lot of rehersal dinner locations before deciding on our venues sister restraunt that is on a pier overlooking the beach. Rehersal dinner will be small about 30 people. I am now nervous that they will be too similar but i know everyone traveling will appreciate spending as much time on the water as possible. I have debated sit down lunch or passed hour d’erves. I think if we have a sit down rehersal dinner and sit down lunch that will be too similar. Will people care? I suppose if i keep the decors very different then it wont be too similar? Or a whole themed weekend wouldnt be too bad… EEEEEEK. And only 1/3 of people are the same so literally immediate family and bridal party. Am I over thinking this? Have you bees been to a lunch reception…what do you prefer?
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
just serve a sit down lunch- it will be easier, and who really cares? it’ll be a totally different day. You’re overthinking it.
Post # 4
Whatever you decide to do isn’t a big deal at all. Nobody will complain if they sit down and eat two days in a row.
Post # 5
Will the reception have any kind of dancing? I’ve been to two dw weddings (one in the mountains, one in puerto rico). Each had a rehersal meal at the same resort as the wedding, but the receptions were unique bc of dancing.
Post # 6
I would think them quite different…
- Rehearsal Dinner at Night – Wedding Lunch in the Afternoon
- Two Different Locales
- And at one you are the Happy Bride … so very different right there.
If it bothers you a lot, maybe make the Rehearsal Dinner eats different from what you have chosen for the Reception.
Nothing says that the Rehearsal Dinner has to be fussy… even Pizza or Sandwiches is quite acceptable !!
Post # 7
@Tbblount: People will find both events lovely, and will love the water. Even if they are a little similar, it will just contribute to the overall feel of your wedding. People will go away remembering one or two specific things that resonate with them as funny, meaningful, whatever, and the general feeling of the whole experience. No one is going to complain that their two free meals were in restaurants that were too similar.
Post # 8
Thanks everyone! I’ve come back to reality and I think it will fine and the guests likely wont notoce the similarities
Post # 9
@Tbblount: You are definitely overthinking. Many people commonly have a sit down dinner followed by a sit down lunch the next day.
Post # 10
@Tbblount: Both our rehearsal dinner and reception have similar vibes. They are both on the water, in the same town. When planning the menu, I found that I was feeling the same way you are. Menu sounded the same…didn’t want to be repetative for the big day.
Since our rehearsal is a lot smaller, we are going for a lobster bake. It’s special, fancy, and very ‘new england’ but people will be able to do self service, sit where they like, and things will be more casual. We can afford the nicer food options for a smaller crowd. For the wedding reception, we will have some seafood, but are making sure our main dish is a steak option, plated dinner, a little more formal. I didn’t want two heavy steak meals in a row for people attending both.
Many try mixing up the menu, but don’t over think it. As long as you don’t end up with 3 identical meals, no one will notice.