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    Mrs. Dee to Bee    January 30, 2010   Louisville, KY (Wedding in TX)

    We just figured out our order of worship for the ceremony and it is 45 minutes long. Personally, I'm inclined for us all to stand during that time. However, my MOH has suggested that the bridal party be seated. What do the bees think?

     
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    Tulip61110    June 11, 2010   Philadelphia

    I think 45 minutes is a long time to be standing.

     
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    artbee    February 28, 2010  

    i'd let them sit. that's a long time to stand up there with uncomfortable shoes on, especially if she specifically asked for it.

     
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    jocelyn3476       New Jersey

    I stood that long.  I was fine with it.  Can't speak for my bridal party, though.  I have been to Catholic Mass ceremonies where everyone, including the bride and groom, sat through most of it.

     
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    pren79    10/17/09   SF Bay Area

    everybody sat. But that's just happens at a Catholic ceremony. We enjoyed sitting but we did have to stand for part of the ceremony that requires us to stand at the altar.

     
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    Meowkers    August 27, 2011   Los Angeles, CA

    That's a long time to stand.  Especially for elderly people, people with back problems. and ladies in heels.  I think everyone needs to be seated. 

     
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    Teddy Bears Picnic    7/31/10  

    People will focus on the ceremony better if they are comfortable.  They may be distracted while standing if the are uncomfortable...

     
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    oracle    October 23, 2010   Los Angeles

    I think it's doable, but your wedding party will be much more comfortable seated.  

     
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    mountaingirl    5/21/2010   Boulder, CO

    Are you talking about having just the bridal party stand or all guests stand?  I think it might be OK for the wedding party to stand, but the guests should be seated.

     
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    Mrs. Louboutin    July 2010  

    That is way too long to stand in heels.  Have them sit.

     
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    musingsfromhere    12 July 2008   Canada

    I would ask your officiant.  In most church ceremonies, there are places where people stand (at the beginning, during the vows, etc), and where they sit (esp. during the readings and the homily, for example).  There's no reason to stand the whole time unless it is really short!

     
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    cannotwait    February 1, 2009   TX

    Are you serving communion?  My ladies stood for the ceremony but took communion first then sat while others took communion.

     
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    cardigan    January 7, 2011   Austin, TX

    I don't really think 45 minutes is TOO long for your wedding party to stand, but they'd definitely be more comfortable seated!

     
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    snow      

    As a former bridesmaid who has had the "Oh no self, don't faint!" experience in every wedding where I've stood for one of my lovely bride-friends, I advocate for sitting. I'm even nervous about standing at my own ceremony! Seriously, it has become a slightly irrational fear. 

     
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    adrndack    September 10, 2011   glens falls, ny

    i vote for sitting. 

    i figure that any standing past 20 minutes is going to have guests fidgeting too much.

     
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    yrret107    November 28, 2009   Seattle, WA; Married in West Chester, PA

    My church says the wedding party will have the first pew to sit at.  As for us, they will have two chairs for us at the altar.

    40 min is long and if you are in a dress and high heels, that 40 min will feel like an hour.

    I would let them sit if you can.

     
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    Future Mrs. Martin    August 21, 2010   London Ontario Canada

    Sit - I would die if I was standing that long in one spot in heels!

     
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    scissors    June 19, 2010   Atlanta, Ga

    Let them sit. You don't want any locked knees or passing out bridesmaids. :p

     
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    spaniel    March 2010   Los Angeles, CA

    Definitely let them sit if your ceremony is that long and it's normal for the bridal party to have seats! If I had to stand that long in one place in heels, it would ruin my night because my knees and back would hurt so much. :(

     
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    stlginkgo    3/20/10  

    If space allows I would personally have them sit. They will be much more comfortable.

     
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    jrswiggy    9/18/2010   Ohio

    At both my friend's and sister's weddings we stood except for during communion.The whole thing flew by that honestly I didn't even notice the 45 min.

     
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    Chachacha    June 2010   Minneapolis, MN

    I've been in weddings where I stood the entire time and where I sat for most of the time. I think we are going to be sitting for most of our Catholic ceremony. Much more comfortable that way.

     
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    Ember78    December 15, 2012  

    45 mins is way too long to be standing. However, it isn't clear from your post whether this applies to guests or just the wedding party. If it's just the wedding party, I wouldn't have a problem standing that long since it's part of the "job" of being an attendant. For guests though, that is inappropriate and they need to be seated regardless of how long or short it is. There are alot of elderly people who can't stand that long and even some who aren't elderly. But that's not say that all elderly people have issues with standing since it doesn't bother some people. But it's best to treat all your guests equally. 

     
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    Sulli301    June 26, 2010   Michigan

    @fiftyfootbride I agree!! I wouldn't want someone passing out (and I did that once in college in heels! not good)

    let them sit and then get back up :) you can have them practice!

     
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    PennyRoulette    06-19-2010   Kalamazoo MI

    standing should be rulled out, you want people to be comfortable :)

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    I have seen a lot of pictures of the bride and groom sitting at Catholic ceremonies!  You really want to be comfortable and standing for 45 minutes will put a serious damper in your partying later at the reception!

     

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