Post # 1
I just saw Sex In the City 2 and although the movie was very controversial one thing really stuck out to me…
Carrie saw her ex Aiden and they kissed. The girls said not to tell Big but she felt she needed too. I love my husband and would never cheat but what if it did happen.. a kiss etc… Would you tell your guy? I actually found myself wondering…. What would be worse hurting him or keeping a secret?
Post # 3
I would tell him. Because imagine how we would feel if they did that to us and we found out somehow…
Post # 4
I would tell him. Because imagine how we would feel if they did that to us and we found out somehow….
Post # 5
First off I LOVE SATC!
I would definitely tell him. To me lying and keeping something from your partner is worse than admitting your mistakes right when they happen. Admitting it right away shows remorse. Trying to hide something with continual lies shows that you just don’t want the other person to get upset. And in my opinion that is far worse!
Post # 6
My first reaction is to tell him as well. But what if your man is not as easy going as Big was? Do you risk the possibility of him leaving?
Post # 7
i would tell him because i frequently have verbal diarreha and i know it would come out eventually.
Post # 8
Yeah I would tell him, couldn’t imagine keeping that secret from him forever.
Post # 9
sex and the city 1 was sooo much better!! I cant believe you can kiss a guy, tell your hubbie and then get a ring out of the deal lol.
Post # 10
I think I would tell too. I think I would feel too guilty to keep it a secret for very long.
Post # 11
@blondeebuckeye: HA! I’m the same way, I love the term “verbal diarreha”, my FI will crack up and probably start telling me to get pepto for my words if I’m not careful 😉
Oh, and I’m with the other girls–I’d tell (not that I think I’d get in the situation in the first place! I’m perfect, you know!) 😉
Post # 12
actually had that happen, but in reverse. my FH told me he kissed his ex- as a friend, didnt mean anything, kind of a habit type of thing they were saying bye, etc, and i BLEW UP. but got over it.
because i realized if it DID mean something he wouldnt have told me. and it hasnt happened again. probably helps that i threatened to lorenna bobbit him. 🙂
but i would probably tell him if it was something like that.
Post # 13
I’m in the minority here but I wouldn’t say anything. For me, if it’s a one time deal and I recognize that I made a terrible mistake, it’s not worth hurting him just to relieve my guilty conscience.
Post # 14
I’m with Jillbean. I wouldn’t say anything. I wouldn’t have even told my friends because they could tell. I’d walk away and let the mistake go. Not likely I’ll see that person again anyway.
I know that sounds deceitful, but all men are not as forgiving as Big was. Not at all. A stupid mistake is a stupid mistake. I wouldn’t have even went to dinner with someone I could possibly kiss or do more with anyway.
Post # 15
I agree with Jillbean! If it truly meant nothing, I wouldn’t want to hurt him just so I could feel better.
Post # 16
I hear you guys. I know if I told my husband about the mistake it would KILL him. Is it worth it to make me feel better? But at the same time if he found out it would be bad. I don’t know. I will just keep myself from this situation but if it happened.. I don’t know honestly which way to go.