Post # 1
I am a very shy person and do NOT like to be the center of attention (so why am I having a big wedding? – my future husband is Greek – seen the movie?) and I DO NOT want to sit next to the altar! It sends shivers down my spine. I feel as though the focus should be on the Mass and not on us. It is important to me to have a Catholic mass – any help? Our priest is hemming and hawing.
Post # 3
It usually depends on the church. Some the couple are front center. Some are front and to the side. Some are ON the Altar and to the side… it’s all up to the church. Usually, the couple winds up kneeling up front and center for the Eucharistic liturgy.
Post # 4
@ fitzly – With all due respect, the most important part as you have mentioned is the Mass. You are very much correct. However, please also consider that this is a feast/banquet in which your guest of honor (GOD) wants you to be up there with him. You are up there because at a wedding, the Priest isn’t marrying you… you guys are marrying one another, but with the GOD, the Priest, and the rest of the attendees as your witnesses.
As such, although you may not feel comfortable with being the center of attention, the reality is that you will be the center on that day regardless. Not trying to be snarky here, but are you sitting amongst the crowd at the reception? If not, and you are separated from them, then this is no different during the mass. People want to celebrate with you… it just so happens that the love between you and your Fiance which will be brought together as completeness of one, is what they are celebrating. We must sometimes humble ourselves enough to be celebrated.
Post # 5
@RumbleBee: Actually, we are sitting with our guests at the reception – there is this big stage at our reception venue and I said no way was I sitting up there! We are working on a compromise with our priest that involves us sitting to the side. Luckily, it is a very low step and the chapel is small, so I think that will help me feel less self concious. I have also seen couples with a very small wedding party, like ours, sit with them at the altar but ours is such a small space that isn’t really possible. My future husband keeps saying what you said – that it is our day to celebrate. I guess this is just one of those times for compromise.
Post # 6
I think its fine if you sit in the front row, or in 2 chairs in front of the front row or kinda in the aisle. It shows you are no more important than anyone else, and helps people focus on the mass instead of staring at you. I don’t think there is any requirement you sit on the altar.