Sitting, Waiting, Wishing (A long lack-of-engagement story)

posted 2 years ago in Proposals
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2006

MermaidM25:  men do like to drag their feet. I think you should tell him you want a nice setting and maybe an Amora gem center (that can be replaced later) 

and it’s hard bc you don’t want to pressure but at the same time it’s like “will it ever happen?” Maybe look and find the perfect ring setting print it out say this is the one!! 

 

Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2006

MermaidM25:  you can also get a friend or sibling to bring it us and get into it with him. 

 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I completely 100% feel the same way you do and it is very tough.  Some girls will tell you that ‘if a guy wants to propose, he will move heaven and earth to do so.’  It’s kind of a rude thing to say because I think that is true for some guys, but not all.  Some really do want to have their ducks in a row before they propose.  They have a view of how/when they want to get married, just like us women.  I don’t know which type of guy your SO is, but I hope it is the latter. 

My SO is the same way and gets annoyed when I or others talk to him about getting engaged – he feels pressured.  Some guys, like my SO, also have issues multitasking or freak out when they have too much on their plate.  My SO is like this and is also terrible at time management.  He is working full time AND in school, so he often freaks when just plans for the weekend come up!  I’ve tried to just shut up about engagement and marrige and give him the opportunity to figure things out himself without my pressure or nagging. 

My take on it is – your SO knows how you feel and what your timeline is.  I would give him the 6 months he has left to get it together and propose.  But if he hasn’t done it by that time, you need to stand your ground and walk/take a break/stay behind when he moves/whatever it is that you set for yourself in your mind.

I wish you luck and I hope that he comes through and proposes.  I’m in the same boat and I have to set my mental deadline pretty soon – it is NOT an easy thing.

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