- 6 years ago
I’ve been a lurker for some time and this is my first post!
-The Boyfriend or Best Friend and I have been together since high school, making it a little over 7.5 years of dating
-We were separated by 5 years of college (different schools, he’s one year older than me), but we still made time to see each other as much as possible
-We moved from Illinois to Washington last year after he got an awesome new job right out of college
-I have brought up marriage 4 times within the last year:
1. May 2011 – Before we decided to move across the country together (he said he’s been wanting to take the next step for a while now, but thought I wasn’t ready. He also said he needs to start saving money for a ring)
2. June 2011 – Right before our move asking for a timeline (he said he had everything taken care of and not to worry)
3. April 2012 – Impatiently asking how much longer after having too much wine at dinner (his response – you’ve had too much wine)
4. Two Days ago – I asked him if I should be worried and if he still wants to take the next step. (he got all still and just told me to stop worrying, that he loves me and still wants to move forward). That whole conversation lasted 30 seconds. Awesome.
So Bees, I come to you for help. I feel like I had so much to talk to him about but just didn’t quite get anything across. And I also feel like he doesn’t want to talk about it one little bit because he wants the whole thing to be a surprise.
Personally, after over 7.5 years together, I feel like the surprise thing is kind of lost. I’d like to pick out my own ring (moissanite, please!) and discuss this more openly with him, but I’m not really sure how or even if I should bring it up to him again. He’s so stuck on keeping it to himself.
I think I’m going to start working on Mr.Bee’s backup plan.
Do you guys have any advice on what I should do next (if anything)??