Post # 1
Short story… do I take a risk and chop my style-evading hair back to the length in the left photo below???
Long story… I got a fairly short cut (almost but not quite a pixie cut) in December 2012 and started growing it for the wedding in about March last year with the hopes of wearing my hair in a wavy/curly style but still just off shoulder length. I have done nothing but grumble since then because I miss my shorter hair… but it was going to be worth it for the wedding. Or so I thought… my trial (a few weeks ago) was a disaster because my hair is so soft it just won’t hold curls – or much styling at all for that matter. I’ve persisted with growing it because there was some talk of putting it up, but honestly I know I wouldnt be happy because I think it looks too severe on me and it usually slips out anyway. We’re doing photos before the ceremony – which is on a ROOFTOP (read: potential for wind) and I’m forseeing all sorts of hair grief.. Long story short, the hair thing has been unresolved and causing me a lot of stress.
Tonight, I was showing my FMIL photos from my fitting last week (she helped me pick the dress & I’ve kept her up to date all the way through). I pulled up a photo taken in May for comparison and she was commenting on how much she loved my hair then. The thing is… I do too. The photo on the left is my favourite photo of my ever taken in my dress. I know I could rock this with absolutely no stress about it coming out of place. Not long after this was taken I went back to NZ for my grandma’s funeral and I got a lot of compliments about my hair then too (most hadn’t seen it that short). I haven’t chosen jewellery yet but was thinking a simple pearl drop earring and that I could get a clip to tuck in the side of my hair or pull it back a bit at the front (pretty sure I’m wearing something similar in the photo)
So… should I do it? I’m so strongly leaning that way but my only reservation – and I’m sure this sounds stupid – is I’m petrified of what my mother’s going to say. She tends to forget I’m an adult sometimes. Assertiveness is not my strong suit but I’m 27 and I think her opinion really shouldn’t play into it, it’s obviously my wedding and I have to be happy and live with my hair for years to come, no matter which way I go. I just don’t want to give her a heart attack though 😉 any tips for dealing with over opinionated mums?
Post # 3
Do it! if you love it you will feel more confident and beautiful, and that’s more important than hair length.
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Post # 5
@goingtotherooftopoflove: if you love that style on yourself, do it. as you said, the curls won’t last in your hair anyways and trust me, you will be unhappy with all of your pics.
fyi, i always have short hair too, pixie cut, and i let my hair grow in a bit longer and thicker for my wedding mainly so that my veil and fascinator had more to hold onto and give me a few other options for styles. well, i wish that i had cut it. my wedding hair was just a much, much longer and heavier version of what i normally have and i regret not going back to my cute short hair. it doesn’t look bad but in pics, i can tell.
please keep us updated.
Post # 6
First off I prefer the picture of your with the shorter hair. Also from reading your comment it sounds like it will be easier to manage for you day. I’ve been in a few weddings and what I see is the brides don’t have much time to fuss about what they look like after they get ready in the morning. (This is just my perceptive) Partly because there are so many people they want to talk to and vice versa but the bigger part is they are having such a great time they stop caring. At my cousin’s her bustle broke (her husband stepped on it) I offered to help her fix it and she told me not to worry.
Now for your mother… my mom is Italian and in her culture it is the mom that plans the wedding. She let her mom have all the decisions.. So she thought it would be the same when it came to mine and my sister’s wedding. Sadly she was very wrong. So I can empathize with you. Do you already know that she likes your hair longer? Because maybe you can talk to her first… and maybe… just maybe after you tell her how much you love your hair that way, how many other people love it (my mom is always more swayed if she knows other agree with me) and how much easier it will be on that day… maybe she will agree. Or you can just do it and deal with her hopefully brief anger. When I pick something that I know she won’t like I try to follow it up with something I know she really wants. (Something that I want too) It reminders her I do care about her opinion. Or talk since your wedding is so close, talk about something she helped you pick in the past.
I hope that helps! If you every need to vent about an overbearing mother, you can always message me.
Post # 7
thanks to all three of you. The confidence factor is probably the biggest driver…. surely it seems the obvious solution to completely unmanageable hair? I’m going to be fussing WAY too much otherwise. I can’t remember being happier with my hair than when it was the length in the first photo, because it was so much easier to style. Fortunately my usual salon is doing my hair/makeup and i’m getting colour done next week so I might email them with my thoughts and maybe make that a CUT and colour instead 🙂
Post # 8
The short hair is adorable on you, and if that’s what makes you feel your best, you should go for it. If you want to try one more idea for curls before you cut it, you could see if there are any salons in your area that do digital perms. They make pretty natural looking curls that should stay for a few months. If that sounds like too much of a hassle, definitely go for the cut.
Post # 9
You look older with short hair, and not in a bad way. You look more mature and ready to be getting married, whereas with the longer hair, you look like you’re studying for midterms. No offense whatsoever, as you look cute in both, I just think it’s a more adult look to have the short hair. Especially if you’re happier when it’s short!
Post # 10
It looks soooo cute short. That’s my vote!
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2014 - Stevens Estate
I say Do It! Especially if you already know you’ll love it. And I also like the short hair pic better too. Good luck! I hope you love your hair no matter which style you choose!
Post # 12
It isnt in the rule book that you MUsT have long hair ror your wedding. You need to look and feel your best and if your beat ia with short hair then good lors, ROCK it!!! For the record, I think the shorter hair looks better too!
Post # 13
@goingtotherooftopoflove: I voted to cut it. You have a fabulous smile, and I think not having hair at your shoulders emphasizes your smile.
Post # 14
Thanks everyone for giving me confidence 🙂 and you’re right, who said brides can’t have short hair? Would be quite nice to change it up a bit!
Post # 15
Go for it! You can rock short hair, and i love the idea of having a pretty clip in it. That dress is amazing too! If you know you’ll feel beautiful and confident, that’s all that matters!
Post # 16
- Wedding: May 2014 - Beach
I think the short one looks amazing on you 🙂 But if you have a certain hairstyle that you would like to do and it requires some hair or something to put an extension to then def. leave it unitil after the wedding. If you dont have any styles yet in mind I would say go with the shorter one 🙂