Post # 1
My FI is not the dancing type at all!! I know the first dance is tradition but I know he wouldn’t be very comfortable with it!! I, on the other hand, love to dance! Should I make him suck it up and dance with me, or should we just forgo tradition??
Post # 3
Have you talked to him about this at all? Is he very vocal about being opposed to this? Maybe he wouldn’t mind one, short, first dance? talk to him and see how he feels, tell him how you feel and see if you can compromise or work it out 🙂 Maybe a dance dvd would help him feel more comfortable? I got one for my FH and I…i really wanted to take a class but we didn’t have time with work…and the DVD was $20 well spent and has been so fun and so helpful 🙂 no we arn’t nervous at all 🙂 (I was a dancer all my life…him not so much!)
Post # 4
We have spoken about it but he grumbles every time. We went to on of my BFFs wedding and her husband doesn’t dance, but he danced the whole night on their wedding night. I kind of insinuated that he needs to be like that at our wedding and that we take a dance class so he can feel better about it. He just laughs and says whatever.
Post # 5
Maybe you could try being more direct (less insinuating, more saying and asking) and see whether he’s actually receptive to the idea.
This is a great decision for the two of you to make together!
Post # 6
My FI is super shy, never danced a dance in his life. He even wants us to take dance lessons for out first dance. That is the only dance he will be doing I am sure, lol…..maybe even for the rest of his life 😛
Post # 7
If he’s not comfortable, don’t force him. If you continue to press the issue, you will only make him resentful instead of receptive to the idea. It is his wedding day too so his choices matter as much as yours do. Tons of people get married and don’t have a first dance. It doesn’t make them less married than anyone else. Wedding planning and marriage are about compromise so you’ll have to get used to it sooner or later.