Post # 1
Hi I need some outside advise please. Last August I met the man of my dreams and I knew from our first date that he was the man I want to spend forever with. He is in the Navy and is currently deployed as of July 1st. We skipped the lavish proposal ( I’m not a really materialistic person) and we got married in May 2012. (small wedding but perfect in everyway!) Before he left. We bought our wedding bands at bike week and I just love them. They are so symbolic to our relationship. The problem is that I still kinda want something pretty and sparkly. Nothing over the top and I would never want him to spend a fortune. But I’m still a woman and I want a little bling. Not having it would never change anything of the way I feel about our marriage what so ever. I’m just unsure of rather I should bring it up to him…..or maybe just see if he does it on his own? Any comments would help. Thank you 🙂
Post # 3
I don’t think that’s unreasonable! 🙂 I think you should bring it up with him exactly as you have here. You guys are married—he knows that you’re not a materialistic person, and that you love him. I think you can tell him that a little bling might be nice, and you could even mention that you were contemplating doing it for yourself. I bet he would pipe up and offer to get something for you!
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
More than likely he wont do it on his own– it simply wont occur to him. But maybe around the holidays, or shortly before your 1st anniversary, you could mention to him that you’d like a little something (be prepared to give examples because, again, this will be a whole new thing for him).
Post # 5
In my experience they need to be told!! I always said I didn’t need/want an engagement ring! Turns out I did want one!! I had to let him know and go with him to get it even though we also skipped the proposal. 🙂
Post # 6
I think it would totally be fine to mention to him that you’d like something sparkly! My FI wouldn’t have a clue on anything that I’d like (other than food). He always says to just tell him!
Post # 7
I’m sure if you talk to him about it, he’ll be more than happy to buy you a sparkly.
Post # 8
- Wedding: December 2012 - Hacienda los Agaves
@jules28: THIS… just tell him, as PPs said he won’t do it on his own, guys need a little push.
Post # 9
Oh, that’s easy to handle…and nowadays you can get a white sapphire that’s just lovely and $$ friendly…if it were me I would leave a few hints around the house..leave a browser up with a ring I liked on the computer, a catalog with a dogeared page in the bathroom….if you go out shopping wander over to the jewelry store window, if you go out with another engaged or married couple talk about her ring, why you love it…he’ll figure it out… I don’t like having to write out a work order…men are a lot more observant that we think…give him some credit, and if that doesn’t work, put a bug in one of his friend’s ears…works every time
Post # 10
You can even ask it from him as a sixth month anniversary present or an after-the-fact wedding present. That way it’s not exactly an engagement ring, but sparkly all the same!
Post # 11
Thank you all so much for the advice!!! I feel so much better now. I was almost feeling like I was being too needy lol. I really appreciate the input. It feels good to know Im not alone. 🙂 thanks ladies!!