Skipping Garter/bouquet Toss?

posted 2 years ago in Traditions
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I think that sounds very smart. I don’t think I want a garter toss either, because most of our guests are married, and the history of the garter toss gives me the heeby jeebies.

I think the bouquet toss is a little too much for my taste, but I think there might be something nice I could do for the unmarried ladies/little 13 year old cousins who’ll be there that doesn’t get into the realm of bouquet toss.

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

I think you can skip it if you want, no problem. I did the bouquet toss but we skipped the garter toss, no one said anything about it. Our DJ did a nice job transitioning from the bouquet toss back to dancing by having the “winner” lead the next dance (our only “line dance” the cha cha slide). I think having it go right into another dance made people “forget” we didn’t do a garter toss. No one seemed to care and similarly we only had a few single guys.

Post # 4
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Worker bee

I don’t think you should bother. Personally, I think the bouquet toss is always lame and the garter thing is uncomfortable lol. If you and your FI aren’t into it, skip it—no reasons needed.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

winterwoodlandbride15:  We aren’t doing either and honestly, I haven’t been to a wedding that has done either since I was too young to have glass of champagne. I wouldn’t worry about it! 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Lots of people skip it, I haven’t been to a wedding with either in ages. We’re skipping it too, though I’m 33 so that could be part of it.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’m skipping both.  Like others above, I haven’t been to a wedding since I was a kid in the 80s that had either

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

winterwoodlandbride15:  

Oh my goodness … I could have been writing your post, except I have been working on FI to drop both of them (he finally agreed to forgo the garter toss, now I am trying to convince FI to forget about the bouquet toss because there are so few singles). I say do what you feel comfortable with. There is nothing that says you have to do it.

Post # 11
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Newbee

I didnt have a bouquet or garter toss at my first marriage, and it was about 75 people, at a pretty fancy place. I dont think anyone noticed or if they did,  nothing was mentioned. Do what you want!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

It’s really all up to you! If you don’t need it, skip it! More time to party!

I was thinking about how many single people are at my wedding too.  I realized though that there are a lot of unmarried people but have SO’s so they can still join in the garter toss/bouquet toss so I think I’m okay there.  I still want to do the whole thing though because I’ve always wanted that experience of throwing the bouquet and seeing all the guys have fun with the garter!!  My FH actually caught the garter at his sister’s wedding LOL and now I’m wearing that garter for my wedding because it’s my something old and blue. 

No one is very shy on both sides of our family so my FH going up my dress would actually be pretty fun for everyone LOL.  I figured they wouldn’t be shy since everyone is already joking and nudging us for babies  and we aren’t even married yet! LOL.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

We are doing a bouquet & garter toss for all of our guests, not just the single folks. FI will NOT be going up my dress to get my garter, we bought a cheap toss garter. We’re doing a lottery ticket bouquet and attaching lottery tickets to the toss garter, and giving a gift bag to whoever catches them (a nice bottle of wine/liquor, other little kitschy things). I considered nixing the tosses altogether, but then our DJ suggested this and we thought this would be a fun way to break up the evening with a nod to tradition and get a little competition going, plus there’s incentive for people to participate. However, I see absolutely nothing wrong with not doing a bouquet/garter toss, and clearly there are lots of people who agree! It’s your wedding, do whatever you want. 🙂

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

bbbria:  That is such an awesome idea!  I like that it’s different but still has that touch of tradition!  I like too that everyone can particpate in it and make people interact.  Awesome!

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

We did a bouquet toss that included everyone and gave away a “dinner and a movie” gift package to the person that caught it.  I actually skipped wearing a garter altogether.

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