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Skipping the father-daughter dance? Opinions needed!

posted 5 months ago in Dance
  • poll: Is this okay?
    No! Have the Father-Daughter dance! : (7 votes)
    21 %
    Yes! The speech is fine! : (26 votes)
    79 %
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    Firefliesflash    May 5, 2013  

    So I don't want to have a Father-Daughter dance. It just..isn't my Dad and I. I don't think my Dad has ever danced a day in his life and I don't particularly enjoy it either. Also, I am just as close with my Mom as my Dad and I find it unfair to have this whole dance dedicated to him and nothing for her. 

    Sooo, my idea is to just scrap the Father-Daughter dance and do a little speech. A speech where I thank both of my parents for everything.

    Do you all think this okay? Or unacceptable?

     
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    NDBee    March 10, 2012  

    I think a speech is totally fine, but if you're close with your dad and just skipping it since it's not traditionally you two, I'd ask him first. He may have really been looking forward to it. You can always swap in your mom halfway to honor them both. I think either of your options works well, but I'd check with him first if you're close.

     
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    Firefliesflash    May 5, 2013  

    @NDBee: Yeah, I think I might just ask him, I doubt he will have an issue, but I guess we will see haha

     
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    hardtoconcentrate    September 15, 2012   live in Hoboken / wedding in VA

    If you're okay with it and you think you're dad will be, too, then I say go for scrapping it.  Do what you're comfortable with - it's your wedding!

     
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    Firefliesflash    May 5, 2013  

    Thanks everyone for your input!

     
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    Ember78    December 15, 2012  

    Do whatever you want since it;s your wedding. The dances are not required and no one will miss them.

     
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    live laugh love    September 29, 2012  

    I know how you feel about wanting to keep it special for your mom... but. i say do the dance... how will this effect the mother son dance how does he feel if you dont have one will he stil have/want his?

     
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    H216scrf    November 11, 2011  

    I had both my parents walk me down the aisle because I figured they both raised me equally, so I get where your coming from.

    I say it's your wedding so do what you feel. 

    Neither my father or I are big dancers.  I asked him what he thought and we both felt more comfortable by leaving the father daughter dance out.  Wasn't a big thing in the least.

     
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    vermontia    October 13, 2012  

    I'm in exactly the same position as PP, or at least I thought I was.  But I get the impression that my dad really wants to do a first dance.  He's even mentioned taking dancing lessons!  It's so not us, it makes me nervous just to think about it!

     
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    melisslp    July 3, 2010   St. Louis, MO

    @Firefliesflash:  Hi there!  I didn't vote, but wanted to offer a suggestion.  I really didn't want to dance with my father because he and I aren't as close as my Mom and I.  I also thought it might be awkward because he's never been very affectionate towards me, even though I'm his "favorite".  So....I decided to split the dance with my Mom and Dad.  I also had both of my parents walk me down the aisle.  It worked out perfectly! 

     
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    Tris05    January 5, 2013   New Zealand

    I'm not doing the father daughter dance either, just don't think it's necessary!

     

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