Post # 1
I’m just wondering what others think about Skype showers. I live in Scotland and all my family is in MN. I’m getting married in June and will only be back in MN a week before the wedding. The original suggestion was to have a bridal shower when i’m there which would be Memorial Day weekend. My mom suggested having a bridal shower via Skype, I’m not really sure how this would work and whether or not its a good idea. Any suggestions?
Post # 3
a skype shower sounds like a blatant gift grab. if you can’t be at your own shower, don’t have one.
my mom was invited to a shower like this not too long ago. they called it a virtual shower, and said to send gifts to the bride and then bring a picture of the gift to the shower and the bride would join by skype. it did NOT go over well among my mom and her friends. no one attended the shower, and all were offended.
Post # 4
I have to agree with Kitzy. I would definitely see that as a gift grab. When I go to a bridal shower I want to spend time with the bride to be and talk to her about wedding planning and stuff. I would probably not attend a skype shower.
Post # 5
Acutally. I am attending a Skype shower for my cousin that my sister is throwing next week. My cousin just moved to England and just had a baby. I have to disagree with Kitzy – Our family throws showers for all the women for weddings and babies etc., and my cousin is no exception! I am looking forward to “seeing” her and hanging out with the family.
She only registered for like 20 gifts, and that is because my sister made her…..
Post # 6
I kind of think part of the reason people go to a shower is to see the bride (in person). It seems odd to throw someone a party in their honor that isn’t even there.
Post # 7
@CantWaittillMAY:if you keep it family only, that’s different. you can do whatever you want because they’re family. when you invite non-family members, it’s offensive imo.
Post # 8
I think having Skype @ a shower would be cool if there were guests that couldn’t be there that really wanted to (was at a wedding the other day where a close aunt couldn’t attend and they had someone video-cast it to her through a cellphone) but I don’t think it works if the absent person is the guest being honoured. Sorry!
Post # 9
I agree that an online shower seems very weird. If the bride can’t be there in person, don’t have one.
Post # 10
My Future Mother-In-Law was involved in something similar for a baby shower last year. The expecting mother lives in FL and her whole family lives here, in NY. She couldn’t come home for a shower so they threw one for themselves and just shipped her the gifts. My Future Mother-In-Law didn’t think anything of it but I found it pretty tacky. Like other PP’s have said, it seems like a blatant gift grab to me.
Post # 11
a friend attended a virtual shower and she said it was a huge success! go for it!
Post # 12
A skype shower seems like a gift grab but a regular shower isn’t? A shower is a gift grab. If you can’t be with your family then a skype shower is perfect. Welcome to 2011 people.
Post # 13
I think it’s totally fine. If you could realistically travel there to have a shower, then it would be kind of weird, but you’re in SCOTLAND! lol. I currently live across the country from where I am getting married but will be there one week ahead of time; we are actually having my shower a week before the wedding because of this. This might be an option for you if you would rather have the in-person experience of having a shower, even if it seems last-minute, but I think the Skype shower wouldn’t look any more like a “gift grab” than a regular one.
Post # 14
@Miss Tattoo: My issue isn’t so much with the “gift grab” as I just think it would be weird to have a party for someone who wasn’t even present at the party… I’d just feel awkward! Like having a birthday party for someone who wasn’t there. Freely admit that it might just be me though
Post # 15
I think that as long as all the people in attendance of the shower are family and/or know each other well, it wouldn’t be weird. If they are all not that close and just have their relationship to you in common, it may be a bit awkward for them.
Post # 16
I’m with Miss Tatto. Customs change over time and with technology.
I have attended a couple of SKYPE showers for dear friends who had moved overseas.
In both cases the guests brought wrapped gifts, the MOB opened the gifts and the oohs and ahs were just as genuine as if the bride had been there in person.
We played traditional shower games and all had a great time.