- 2 years ago
Okay ladies I need to rant so I apologize in advance, this is going to be long winded. Hopefully it’s not too confusing.
One of my FI’s groomsmen let’s call him C, has been pretty non existent and not a friend of all recently. Here’s the background: C got engaged to his FI back in October after only dating for 5 months. Which yes we thought was a little rushed, but he’s one of FI’s best friends so we support him. So we barely know her because she refuses to talk to us and all we’ve ever done is be supportive and friendly towards her. Anyhoo, when we got engaged at Christmas C was excited and happy for us. Then when we had picked a date (July 26) and sent out our invitations in February due to all my family being on the eastern side of Canada, it became a huge competition to C. C and his FI set their date for 2 weeks after ours and a month and a half after his own brother’s wedding(which is this weekend).
C has even talked to people bashing my FI and I, which is completely unfounded. He told our Best Man D, that we just had to get married before him and it was our fault that they chose their date to get married after we sent out our invitations. We had no clue how long they were planning to wait before getting married so I don’t see how it’s our fault. A few months go by and when the wedding party starts planning our shower and bachelor parties no one hears from him at all. He still hasn’t responded to a single text or phone call from anyone since we all saw him at his brother’s bachelor party at the beginning of May. So at our second shower which our church threw for us, we got asked how C managed to get out of both showers and helping out with everything. We didn’t know what to say, he won’t even respond to a text or phone call from us to have him and his FI over for dinner.
What do we do? FI is hurt that C who is supposed to be one of his best friends has pretty much fell off the planet. We’re 5 weeks out from the wedding so it’s getting stressful that we can’t even get a hold of him and he’s yet to tell us if his FI will be coming. I hate that C is hurting my FI and I’m angry that he can’t even man up to talk to us. I just want some sort of communication from C, we (the entire wedding party) were all super close before we sent out the invitations and he’s the only one that we don’t ever hear from.
Any help or suggestions would be great on how to handle this would be awesome.