Post # 1
Hi everyone. I’m in a bit of a pinch.
I originally asked 6 girls to be in my wedding. 5 of them agreed. I only have my MOH that lives close by. The other 4 live in totally different states, Virgina, North Carolina and Florida. I live in Maryland. Bridesmaids from VA and NC and my MOH have ordered their dresses but the girls from FL have not and the wedding is less than 5 months, almost 4 months away. I’ve reminded them time and time again that they need to order them and all I keep getting is “we’re going soon”. Finally I had my mom call their mom (they are my cousins, mothers are sisters) and they said they would be going Friday. I have this gut feeling that they won’t. They come from a very scatter-brained family who seems to put everything off until the last minute. I.E the day of their sisters wedding they were out shoe shopping of the wedding instead of helping set up.
What do I do? If they don’t order them soon, do I keep reminding them and hope they do it, or do I tell them they can’t be in it? They are my cousins and I do love them and don’t want to seem like a bridezilla…
I can’t even count how many times I’ve asked them to order and I’ve asked them both multiple times if they even want to be in it. Always get the same answer, yes we want to be in it and we are going to order dresses. I even made it easier on them by just telling them pick a dress you want as long as it fits the requirements. I’m worried if they don’t get on the ball here and wait too long, what if the dress comes in wrong, or it doesn’t fit or it needs to be altered? There really isn’t much time to be dilly dallying around.
Thanks you guys. I’m hoping they are true to their word and go tomorrow to pick them out and order them. Like I said, I really do love them and don’t want to be a bridezilla or cause problems in the family but at the same time I don’t want to get screwed over 🙁
Thanks so much everyone <3
Post # 3
You still have have a few months, it’s annoying and I understand the frustration, my sister was equally useless, she got her shoes 2 days before the wedding. So I get that, but you don’t have to worry about running out of time yet.
How about, waiting to see if they get them tomorrow and if not, tell them they have till mid november or you’ll get them for them and get them to reimburse you. Not ideal but it’s the best I can come up with, matbe some other bees will have a better idea.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
At this point I would just go with the idea that if they don’t get them, they are out. I probably would ask them if they went on Friday, and if not I would completely drop it. It sucks that they can’t follow through, but the situation is not without hope.
When we went BM dress shopping the store said we had just made it in the sense that they needed 6 months for the dresses to come in. They ended up coming in about a month later, so they are definitely overdramatic in the shops.
Post # 5
There’s no point stressing about it. They’ll either get the dress or they won’t. If the salon has a final date of when they can guarantee it will be in tell them that date. The salon may have a rush fee that they would have to pay if they order outside the normal time line. Maybe that will motivate them. But don’t keep bugging them. Just tell them the last date that they can purchase. And maybe send a message a day or two before that date. And if they don’t get the dress you can deal with that then.
Alternately, you could just go buy them yourself, if you know their size, and ask them to pay you back. You may not get the money back, but then they would all have the dress you like.
Post # 6
Is everything okay with them financially?
Post # 7
Problem is, I don’t have the money to buy them myself. If I did, I would’ve done that. Plus, I can’t count on them to pay me back.
Post # 8
@BrandNewBride: As far as I know. I mean, they both have jobs and they both still live with Mom and Dad. I know that doesn’t mean much. I’ve asked them multiple times if they can and will still be a bridesmaid and haven’t heard a peep about money.
Post # 10
Why bother with girls who give you the shuffle everytime you ask them to do something for your wedding… the one they agreed to be a part of?