(Closed) Slacking Bridesmaids….HELP!!!

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
5075 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

They are under no obligation to throw showers or parties for you (but of course it would be nice)

Did they not order dresses and shoes at all? 

Post # 4
1562 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@mrswilburn12:  What are they going to wear for the wedding if they haven’t ordered dresses?

Post # 5
6745 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I think I am in disagreement with most people here.  I think it is absolutely the MOH’s duty to throw a shower and a bach party.  It may not be up to par with your expectations, but it should be something. 

Honestly, if they haven’t helped you much with the wedding, then you don’t have to show your appreciation with your gift. 

Maybe if you give us more specifics about what exactly you expected of them and what they did or did not do, we’d be able to give you a better idea if whether your expectations are too high or what. 

Post # 6
4478 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

It sounds like you’ve picked nice gifts, and that sounds like enough to me.

Post # 7
1796 posts
Buzzing bee

2 months away and no dress??? Girl, crack that whip! They arent ‘technically’ required to throw you any kind of party, but it is the traditional thing to do for the Maid/Matron of Honor. but the dress and shoes are a MUST.

Post # 8
1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Do not purchase their attire for them.  If they can’t handle buying the dress, they have removed themselves from the wedding.

Post # 9
1041 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

The problem is that your “Man of Honor” was the one that was supposed to organize all the pre-wedding events like showers and bachelorette parties.  Since he’s a man, maybe he didn’t know.  The other bridesmaids usually just attend and chip in for the costs.  They usually don’t do the planning.

Post # 10
33 posts
  • Wedding: September 2012

Can i just say that i have the exact problem.  unfortunatley all my BM’s are young, and therefore i had to consult with their parents.  I sent an SMS to the mother’s stating that we will be meeting up in the next two weeks to shopping for shoes and jewellery and to please ensure that their daughter/granddaughter have $.  I opted to buy the jewellery for them, but now i’ve got the one mother saying, i should send the pic of the ‘shoe’ so that she could buy it herself.  What happened to BM’s bonding???


Post # 11
901 posts
Busy bee

@Bazingau:  That was my thought! Men are kind of clueless when it comes to these things!


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