(Closed) Slap in the face (vent)

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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2106 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Are you upset because on some level, you wanted them to thin you were engagement ring shopping? I know you’re just venting, but I did the same thing when I was waiting. 

Post # 4
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506 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Wow, that was a really jerky to thing for him to say! Totally inconsiderate of your feelings. : (

Maybe he is just nervous that you want him to propose sooner rather than later and he isn’t ready and he thought you might end up trying on engagement rings. How old are you guys? How long have you been together?

Regardless, he totally should’ve just said, “sure honey, let’s go.”

Post # 5
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967 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Whenever I would buy myself jewellery I always went by myself.  I would go and treat myself to lunch, do some clothes shopping, and buy myself a nice piece of jewellery…I personally enjoyed that more than shopping with any guy i dated….

but then, my ex constantly bought me these cheap silver rings with hearts on them….ICK…I HATED THEM…I have always hated hearts….they’re just not my thing…so going by myself I was able to get myself good quality jewellery that were my style….

 

Post # 6
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1849 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Guys can be such a bummer when they fail to think before they speak… You should have said “why would that be so terrible?” and watched him try to come up with an answer after realized he just said something stupid.

Post # 7
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8042 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Kat_Kit2000:  I’d be pissed, but I guess he was probably thinking from a practical point of view that he just didn’t want to be hasseled by the salesperson.

My guy and I went specificially to look at e-rings and he could not stand being there for more than 15 minutes!

Post # 8
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2106 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Devil’s advocate- its it considerate of his feelings to put him in that situation before he’s ready. He’s not ready for the world to see him as a fiancé. 

Post # 9
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1830 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I get where you’re coming from OP, but also realize that his train of thought on this is probably completely opposite from yours, so try not to be too offended.

When he said “Not really, they might think were looking for an engagement ring.”

You probably thought: Oh, so you’re embarassed for them to think you might want to marry me?

And he probably thought: I’m not in the mood to be pitched to by a salesperson today.

Guys’ brains are just different from ours…they don’t think about this stuff as much or in the same way as we do.

Post # 10
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181 posts
Blushing bee

i would have been upset to…. and you have every right to feel the way you want to feel… if it was a thing of him not wanting to be pitched a ER sale he could have said so or let her put the sales people in order… but that “not wanting to be seen as engaged” stuff I would have a serious problem with that and would have showed it at the opp time like when he wanted sex ” oops im sorry i wouldnt want people to think im a loose woman ” !!!! jus saying 

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