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While I agree that some wedding websites get out of hand, I wonder where the author of this editorial thinks that one is supposed to put registry info? It specifically said "if a guest forgets where the couple is registered" - but traditional etiquette is that you do not list those details on the invitation.
I had to laugh at the article b/c I have thought some of the same things when reading some wedding websites. Too cutesy and over the top. This is also the reason why I had my sister create an id/pswd for her wedding website and to make it not searchable so it can't be googled. It's hard enough having your wedding preparation being dissected by family....much less the world wide web.
So we ought not make wedding websites because the internet triggers (in some of us) an uncontrollable impulse to judge?
Riiiiiight. Or you could, Ms. Malone, simply not look. Crazy-talk, I know. But think about it. You could simply opt not to, um, visit the websites if they doth offend thy precious sensibilities so.
And, BTDubs, your inability to spell gauntlet makes me question the wisdom of critiquing the "questionable grammar" of others.
ha! one of my co-workers sent me the link to this article with the subject line: don't let this be you. i thought it was funny.
Meh. I think a lot about weddings is both worthy of mocking and too easy to mock. Yes, narcissists get married, and continue to be themselves through that process. Stop the presses.
If you read the whole article, the author doesn't suggest that we shouldn't make wedding websites - she acknowledges their usefulness for conveying practical info. Rather, her point is that we should avoid overdoing it with hundreds of photos/cutesy videos, etc.
@teaadntoast - Wow, you really hated the article that much? I think if you are a guest at the wedding, it's sort of expected that you look at the website, as it has key wedding info on it. I for one, do not want to be subjected to over-the-top "look at me, I'm getting married!" as I'm trying to look up directions to the hotel...
@GWaR - I think what got to me was the tone. There's a very particular sort of condescention often levelled at brides (the implication, for instance, that a person concerned about the wedding, or even a particular aspect of the wedding has lost her way and been brainwashed by the wedding industrial complex) that drives me increasingly crazy. Perhaps I'm sensitive to it because I used to BE someone like this, but I can't stand the snarky, faux-enlightened stance of people who look to mock brides or weddings writ large in the guise of being "helpful."
I feel that the author of this article is just picking on engaged women. I suspect jealously. The urge to post over-the-top, self-centered info and photos about oneself is not exclusive to engaged women.
Take a look at any blogs, on one's own child(ren), business, finances, political views. In forums of not just wedding websites & blogosphere, but facebook, twitter, my space. People talk about themselves all the time and post photos of themeslves, their children, their pets, etc, ad nausea.
Some people do it tastefully and some people are just over-the-top. Some brides are good writers and format and communicates effectively via their websites and some brides don't. But it's not a phenomenon exclusive to wedding websites.
@teaandtoast - Did you really just use "BTDubs" because I don't know anyone else but me and my MOH who say that (and you are very clearly not her).
@kittyachi - I say that, too! Haha. It actually started when I worked at DSW - my friend and I called it "DS Dubs" and we've never stopped adding the "dubs."
@Kitty - There are a few people in my office who say it. For some reason, I tend to use it when I'm snippy.
I started out using it ironically and now I just use it whenever LOL
Something actually on topic - there's nothing wrong with having a wedding website if you aren't completely self-indulgent about it. It's for factual information mostly. A few design elements and a pic or two are fine, but I'm not down with the epic how we met and proposal stories and having every single picture of the couple ever taken on the website. A few weeks ago my MOH actually sent me a link to the wedding website of this guy we went to high school with. He was a huge jerk in high school and made fun of everyone so when she found it she of course had to check it out and it was one of the above mentioned disgustingly self-indulgent wedding webpages with millions of engagement pictures and stories and OHHHHHHH we laughed.
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http://www.slate.com/id/2247489/?GT1=38001
Has anyone seen this article? I thought it was pretty insightful.
"Nearly every pair of happy, ordinary American betrotheds creates a personalized wedding Web site... In theory, the practice is [harmless]. The sites make life easier for guests who can't remember where the couple is registered or lost their save-the-date cards. But instead of being tasteful, utilitarian affairs, these sites inevitably turn into showcases for unbridled narcissism—and open the couple up to a great deal of mockery from friends and strangers alike."