Post # 1
Long story short, I’m the type of person who loves physical contact with my man. Hugs, kisses, cuddles, hell yes. I also enjoy verbal confirmations: you’re beautiful, I love you, you mean so much to me, etc. Hubby is not like this whatsoever. After getting up at 5 am, going to work full time, going to the grocery store during lunch hour to pick up items for dinner my love requested, go to class, come home and prep dinner, cook dinner when hubby gets home from class (at ten at night), I’m not even hungry cause I’m so tired at that point lol!
After dinner, I head to bed and request for some attention. I love being home with my man and enjoying one another. It’s too hot to be held for him, so I ask him for that verbal confirmation I love so much. He told me he’s not needy whatsoever, so I used this line to ask cutely if he needs me. We’re lying in bed at this point, he’s tired and I can tell, , as am I, but he shook his head no, so I asked why he didn’t need me and he said, “I unno.” I asked him why he’d say such a thing and he sleepily asked, “What are you talking about?” Being an emotional person, not gonna lie, it hurt my feelings. Even the simple thought of not being a need in his life is scary! But I think he was so tired he didn’t know what he was saying. I don’t want to talk to him about
it if it’s just a silly thing he said while being
tired. But it’s still bothering me for some
reason! He gave me a big hug this morning and told me to have a good day. It seems like he doesn’t realize what he said last night. I almost want to ask if he remembers anything he said to me last night, and go from there. Or should I write it off as him being too tired, and not bring it up at all?
Post # 3
I would just get over it if I were in your shoes.
Post # 4
I completely understand..I am the same way …need attention adn affection and fiance is more so standoffish and says its too hot for me to lay on him and for him to hold me…he can say things that hurt my feelings at times even though he doesnt intend to sometimes…but it makes the times he does hold me and show me love and attention mean so much more…all men arent affectionate and loving so I learned to know that he does love and need and want me, he just doesnt bluntly show it…maybe tell him how it made you feel without arguing and see what it says or if it changes…i had to tell my fiance he was hurting me with the things he said for him to realize it..if he cares he will pay attention more to how he says things..good luck love!
Post # 5
@LittlePumpkin: I think if it bothers you, you should be able to talk to him about it. Its no big deal, he was proabably just tired and wanted to go to sleep. Ask him about it, tell him it hurt your feelings – that your not trying to make a big deal of anything, but you just want to let him know how you feel. I’m sure he’ll apoligize and you’ll get over it.
Communication is key. If something bothers you enough, say something! =) Talking about things like this doesn’t always = fighting. I know you probably know this, but whats the harm in sharing your feelings? Get it off your chest and move on.
When I have something bothering me about FI or anything really, I CAN’T hold it in, it will just fester until I blurt it out haha.
Post # 6
I think you might be overreacting a bit. I mean he was trying to sleep. I know that feeling of just basically grunting when my DH is trying to ask me questions when I’m trying to sleep. Probably wouldn’t take it to heart.
Post # 7
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