Post # 1
So, it really hasnt been that long since my BF moved 16 hours away, but i’m finding it really hard to fall asleep without him beside me.
He left me one of his childhood stuffed animals to hug when i miss him but it just doesnt cut it.
Do any of you have particular things you do when you fall asleep to make it easier when you’re on your own?
Nothing is too weird, cheesy, silly or over-the-top. 😀
Post # 3
I feel for you, long distance is so hard! Hugs!
I spray his cologne on the shirt I sleep in or on my pillow. At first, I sprayed it once a weekish but lately I’ve been doing it every other day because I’ve been having a hard time lol. :/
Also, I bring my laptop into my bedroom at night sometimes and we skype while in our own beds. It makes us feel closer, and seeing his face so close to bedtime makes me fall asleep so much happier.
We also ALWAYS talk on the phone right before bed. This works well because we generally go to bed around the same time. Talking is helpful on the nights we don’t skype because I at least get to hear his voice before I fall asleep.
Post # 4
i don’t have the long distance issue but my FI works nights and i work days so 5 out of 7 nights he is working, i usually just stay up till i’m dead on my feet that way i am able to fall asleep easily, but yh it sucks sleeping alone
Post # 5
I am in a similar situation to StokieGal, my SO works nights. I sleep in his t-shirts and he texts me until I fall asleep. I also make sure I’m super tired and eventually drift off.
Post # 6
My SO has been kept away longer than planned for work- so this week I’ve been sleeping so poorly. I worry, and also yeah, not having him there.
I get to sleep more easily with music/radio on. He’s a noisy sleeper, so silence is bad too.
Post # 7
My FI is a firefighter, so he sleeps at the firehall 7 nights in a 4-week cycle. Falling asleep without him sucks, since we snuggle as we sleep.
Often we can’t talk or text before bed if he’s out at a call.
I sleep curled around a big body pillow on his side of the bed, and I will heat up a rice bag in the microwave and put it under the covers at my feet: I have really cold feet and usually warm them on him to fall asleep. I have noticed it makes a difference to help me fall asleep.
Post # 8
Take one of his bed shirts, put it on a pillow as a pillowcase.
Post # 9
I feel ya on this =( being away from your signifigant other is hard. Right now my fiance is in Indonesia (has been there a week thus far and has five days to go still). We FaceTime every morning when I wake up/before he goes to bed. Then we FaceTime every night when he wakes up/before I go to bed. =P The time zone change makes it kind of funky for us to talk during the day unless one of us is up late. He gave me a heart pillow for Valentine’s Day a couple years ago and I sleep snuggled up with that while he’s gone.
Post # 10
Find a shirt that smells like him & sleep with that.
Take your laptop/cellphone with you to bed & video chat/talk to him as you doze off.
Meditation breathing: count for 3-7 seconds as you breathe in, hold (3-7 sec), breathe out (ditto) & hold (pause again, then repeat). In through your nose, out through your mouth.
Post # 11
Aww I totally understand! My FI lives 7 hrs away because of work, so of course I miss him like crazy. We usually call each other before bed, but it’s just not the same 🙁 Sleeping alone is, well, lonely
Post # 12
I feel you. My FI is in Greece visiting his family for a month, and this is the 3rd year in a row that he has been away for 4-5 weeks straight. I take his pillow, jam it up against my back and pretend its him spooning me. When he is here, I work days and he works 5-midnight, so I usually only get 5 or so hours of sleep a night cause i want to stay up to see him…so now that he’s gone the only plus I see is I get 8 hours of rest a night—its pretty glorious! But I’d rather have him back here. Thank the stars for SKYPE!!!!
Post # 13
I totally know how you feel. My SO and I were long distance for the majority of our relationship, but about a month ago we moved in together and it was great! Now he’s in between summer classes and fall classes so he’s working all the time, which means he’s going to be staying with his parents a lot. It sucks. I used to live in our apartment alone before he moved in and I was fine. Now, he’s away for one night, and it’s agony. The other night, it got so bad that I had to put on one of his t-shirts, snuggle up in his blanket and sleep on his side of the bed, just so I could sleep!
Post # 14
We are in a LDR so we sometimes plan on going to sleep together on the phone…kinda lame…but it helps a little, still not as high quality sleep as in person.
Post # 15
We had a sweatshirt swap. He gave me a hoodie that he wore super frequently when we saw each other, and I wore it to sleep. When we saw each other again, I gave him the hoodie and he gave me a different one that he’d been wearing.
Post # 16
DH and I had a few LD patches when we were dating, and I DO NO miss them. This week he is away for a conference in Oxford, and my first night without him was literally horrible. I couldn’t sleep until like 4am and then had nightmares all night. Ususally when he’s home, if I have a nightmare all he has to do is touch me and I remember I’m safe. Last night was atrocious.