Sleeping Separately

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Hmmm…maybe tomorrow night SO can tell his mom that he was uncomfortable sleeping without you and you guys want to sleep together for the remainder of the trip. If she has a problem, he can pull out the “we’re paying for our share” part. I don’t know…I guess it all depends on everyone’s personalities and how much she will budge.

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@boogiewoogies:  +1

How awkward. I would be pissed if I were paying for a part of the rental, too.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Agree with PP, have your SO handle it.  This would piss me off- you have the right because you are paying for your own share. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@carolinabelle:  Hmm, my DH and I would sleep in separate rooms when we were on trips with his family while we were dating and engaged even though we lived together because we didnt want to make anyone uncomfortable plus he’s the oldest and didnt want to set a bad example for his siblings. That being said, we were always on the same page. How does your SO feel about it? If he wants to respect his mother than you should be on his team but if he also wants to share a room with you than maybe he can pull his mom aside and mention that you guys are adults and you will be sharing a room from here on out.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I would have him deal with it if you really want to sleep together, but honestly, I think it’s pretty standard to assume that you’d be sleeping separately when the whole family is there.

But honestly, if you’re not happy, tell her. Otherwise she may think she can push you around for the rest of your lives together.

 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I agree with the ladies who’ve suggested having your fiancé deal with her if you want to do anything about it.

FWIW, my DH and I slept in seperate beds when we went to visit his family even though we were living together and engaged. Even now that we’re married I still sleep in his sister’s old room rather than share the full-size bed in his old room.  We wouldn’t sleep well in a full bed. Plus, it just seems wierd to me for some reason even now and we’re married.

I get being upset since it’s a rental you’re paying into but you have to ask yourself if it’s a hill you want to die on by raising the issue. Also, is it possible the family friends don’t take too kindly to the living in sin thing and she’s trying to be respectful of them?

Post # 9
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Helper bee

She’s prolly just used to old habits.  If it’s important to you then have your so say something 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I would suck it up but thas me, i would be worried of offending his mother and her being hard to deal with later down the road when weddings happen its great to have mom on ur side …. moms always love me lol 

 

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