Post # 1
just curious how does the guest list break down for you.
of the 215 people we invited.(minus the 8 of us–fiance,me,kids,dj,photographers)
129 are from his side-either family,friends,or coworkers/… 78 are my family/friends/past coworkers/moms church members
Post # 3
We’re looking at about 180 people…120 from his side, 60 from mine.
Post # 4
206 total invitees; 106 mine, 100 his
Post # 5
We are pretty even which surprised me. With 150 people invited 80 are from his side including his friends and 70 are from mine including my friends.
Post # 6
We’re almost dead even! I’m inviting more friends than he is but he has a bigger extended family.
Post # 7
140 from my side, and 50 from his.
His side is strictly family only, while my side includes a lot of my parents friends, people from work, etc.
Post # 8
We’re about even, but comparitively mine’s comprised of more family and his is more friends.
Post # 9
We are sooo not even! My family and I are in shambles so I think I’m going to have my mom and my dad there only. (This is a for sure, the rest I don’t even know if I’m going to invite them or not) I have alot of friends that are coming though. Fiance has a very good relationship with all of his family so he’s got more coming on his side.
Post # 10
About 2/3 my side, 1/3 his side.
I have a bigger family plus my parents are helping us out so they got to invite more people.
Post # 11
About 100 people are invited and all are mine… there’s about 10 that are mutual friends of ours, but his family is not invited due to all the drama and past issues. But then again, we haven’t talked to his family in a very long time.
Post # 12
As of right now, I’m at 74, and hes at 108. I have another 26 on a B-list, but only because I’m not sure if we will hit the venue’s minimum. I wouldn’t be upset if the B-list couldn’t come, but it would be nice if they were there. He has not made a B-list, but I’m sure he could double his guest list easily if I gave him the oppertunity. He is much more social than me, and I really only want to invite friends I envision in my life in 10 years, whereas I think he has a different rule of thumb for deciding who he wants to come. Its not a big deal for us because we are right around the total number of guests we want to be at, and we’ve figured out who the most important people are. I *think* Future Mother-In-Law and my parents have a lotof people missing that they would want to come, but they’re aware that its not their wedding so they aren’t pushing for more guests. I think if we come up short of the minimum after RSVPs they will have a lot of suggestions.
Post # 13
I’m not sure of the exact numbers, but I know there are a lot more from my side just because my stepmom comes from a huuuuge family, and his family is very small.
Post # 14
we haven’t started guest list yet, but most will be from his side – his dad is one of SEVEN (well six, his brother recently passed) and most of them have children/step children, and they all have boyfriends/girlfriends/SOs, and his mum is one of FIVE and most of them have children, etc etc.
both my parents are the youngest of four children, with only one sibling having children – and those siblings each had two children, on my dad’s side his sister had two girls, and each of those girls is married with children, and on my mum’s side are two boys – both younger than me and single. so there will be a big difference in our numbers, and i am sadly not as close with many friends as i used to be, and with the size of his family and mine it could be up to 100 WITHOUT any friends besides those in the bridal party!
would we have to invite the girlfriends/boyfriends of my FI’s cousins (cousins who he sees only a couple times a year), considering how large the wedding will have to be anyway, and over here all the venues i have looked at the cost of a reception would be about $120AU per head! and that would only increase by the time we get married, and my parents will be contributing to the wedding, his parents said they would happily pay for half, “money is no object” his mum said, but i do want to see if we can pay for stuff ourselves too!
Post # 15
His family = 48 only immediate family members & spouses, aunts & uncles, grown neices & nephews. Select cousins & their spouses.
My family = 30 my entire very small family, including some of the “relatives” who are really just good friends of the family (but are still very close)
and the rest are “our” friends, we don’t differentiate.
Post # 16
Approx 140 will be invited. 100 for my side, 40 for FI’s side. And even then we are sure a lot of them won’t come (From FI’s side, the wedding is in my hometown where 90% of my guest list lives) even though the wedding is only 2 hours away from where the majority of them live.