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We wanted to wait until December of this year to start trying so we could take our scheduled trip to Italy this summer. Well, we got a little surprise in May and even though I'm in a travel safe time in my pregnancy, I had some high risk complications develop and we are no longer able to go on our dream vacation. Don't get me wrong, we are happy we were able to conceive with no problems. However, we are still a little sad we didn't get to take our dream trip before starting a family. Italy will always be there but it is something we would have liked to have done together before having lil ones.
So I guess my point is, how important is this trip? If it's high on the must do list prebaby, you might want to try a little closer to March to make both you and your husband happy and ready to start your family?
Good luck with your decision :)
@FutureMrsZapper: Thanks for sharing - it's nice to get the opinion from someone on the other side of things. His trip is to Vegas (which he usually does a boys' trip every year or so). I'm not invited, so my travel-ability doesn't really matter 
But he would be disappointed if he couldn't make it, because it will be the first year he gets to go and bet on NCAA March Madness stuff (he used to be in public accounting, so trips in March were no-go).
My reaction is that starting 6 weeks early is probably not going to make much of a difference in the long run (ie, if you do have fertility issues, which you don't have any reason to suspect that you do). I say wait until the agreed upon time - that way you will have no doubt that you both want it the same and are on the same page : )
Oh if it's just a boys trip you guys should be fine even if you started now! You won't necessarily get pregnant on the first try too, but you never know! G'luck!!! :)
If it's just a boys trip, see if he feels differently if you promise that he can still go because you wouldn't be due for another month or so. If he really doesn't like the idea of going when you're that pregnant, I say cut him some slack and wait the 6 weeks. In the scheme of things, 6 weeks is really not much. Good luck!
Life is so funny - this resolved itself this weekend. The conversation essentially went like this:
him: condoms suck.
me: yeah, I can't wait til we're done with them.
him: well, that's probably today, since I think this was the last one unless I find some others that are about to expire in my drawer.
Boys are funny.
Ha! That's hilarious! Girls plan things out so differently! Least you'll be on your way in your timeframe now!
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DH and I settled on starting to TTC in September - so not too far from now. This was based mainly on a trip he wants to take in March (so he didn't want to start sooner) and his concern about side effects from my BC pills (I stopped taking those in April).
I was totally on board with this plan, but after spending a few weekends with our friends'/families' kids, I kind of want to start after my July AF (already missed the July "sweet spot") but feel a little awkward pushing to start 6 weeks earlier than we had originally agreed on.
And the really stupid part is that I don't want to bring it up because I'm always the one to try to push up our timelines for things (um . . . marriage
). But with other friends having pretty big fertility issues and major health issues with family, I'm feeling like it's silly to wait just to work around a trip (he'd still be able to go in March because the earliest I'd be due would be mid-April). Almost like we're tempting fate and that it will backfire somehow (like it usually does when you try to create the perfect blueprint for your life!). I'm 30, and I've already told DH that I'm not interested in trying for anymore kids after I hit 35 because of age-related pregnancy concerns and the fact that we'd like to have our lives back to ourselves before we retire (he's on board with that decision).
I more or less want to throw caution to the wind for a month, then really get into the nitty gritty of the whole TTC thing in Sept/Oct.
So ladies, am I just being impatient? Or, how would you propose I broach this subject?